Bye Bye NH (Keene: rent, selling a house, transfer)

[MamaBee]

Well, it's been a fun few months conversing with "youse" but I'm going to stop visiting.

I so desperately want to move to NH but my DH gave me the final NO this weekend ("Hun, just drop it, alright...we're never moving to NH so stop it").

Take care of yourselves in the LIVE FREE OR DIE state.

[Suzet2262]

Wow sorry MamaBee. I do know where you are coming from. My hubby is having the dreaded 2nd thoughts. I am not sure what is going to happen. We are supposed to go out in March, I am not sure that is going to happen now. I am pretty dissapointed. My daughter and I were going to move out there full time, and the hubby was going to do the bi-coastal thing for a bit, until he could come out full time. I am ready to just buy a home out in Keene, that way we have 2 places we can live. I know he wont be a huge fan of the winter, so he can come back out here warm up and come back to Keene..lol. Good luck to you in where ever you end up. Maybe your husband at some point will change his mind. One can only hope

[daniellefort]

Seems like we're all kind of in the same boat in a way. Mines a little more complicated. Course i have no family members here in FL at all. Been here 14 years by myself. I have a daughter ready to attend 9th grade next year and i wanted her to start in the same high school she will graduate in plus be in high school with her 5 cousins. (did i mention she was blind so learning new layout of a school to get around takes time and having the extra eyes of her cousins in the same school as her too is a relief) Anyways, i want to move this summer so she can start the next school year up there but my husband will have to stay behind until the house sells and who knows how long that will take. The house isn't even ready to put on the market yet. I'm stressing on what to do. I can have her repeat 8th grade here and move in another year or move this summer and start 9th grade. Her specialist at school would rather she not repeat 8th grade but use the extra years that she can repeat for high school since those years focus more on after school life. He's not too gung ho on moving too. He'd be happy to stay in FL but he's willing to move because my daughter and I need my family around but i'm so confused as to which way to go.

[DareToDream]

I'm sorry so many of you are having "problems" with moving to NH and I can see how lucky we were, just making the decision to move and doing it.

MamaBee - Has your hubby given you any reason for not moving? Have the two of you listed the pros and cons of such a move? It might help to have it all in black and white and go from there?

Suzet - I'm sorry your husband is having 2nd thoughts. Have either of you been to NH (I'm sorry I just can't remember!). Maybe if you at least came to visit in March, your husband could get a "feel" for the area?

Danielle - Your move, while "confusing" is probably going to be the "easiest" since your husband is willing to move - it's the timing that has you confused, right? FWIW, I think I would move this summer so your daughter would have the benefit of her cousins with her as she starts a new school. Who knows, maybe your house in FL will sell quicker than you anticipate and hubby could join you sooner...any chance you could rent it out?

We were lucky in the sense that our kids are all grown and on their own, we rented in NY so didn't have to worry about selling a house before moving and we were able to make our final decision and just up and move in the space of about 3 weeks. I hope you all find a way to make your dreams come true!

[daniellefort]

[quote=DareToDream;2507313]
Danielle - Your move, while "confusing" is probably going to be the "easiest" since your husband is willing to move - it's the timing that has you confused, right? FWIW, I think I would move this summer so your daughter would have the benefit of her cousins with her as she starts a new school. Who knows, maybe your house in FL will sell quicker than you anticipate and hubby could join you sooner...any chance you could rent it out?QUOTE]

Well it's the timing and having a special needs child in school that's making it so tough. Most kids can transfer schools anytime but being blind, the school she's going to has to have plenty of time to purchase braille printing equipment, her books in braille and the staff. That alone can take several months to get. Yes she does need to have the socialization with family before everyone grows up and goes off to college. As far as renting out the house.. No that's not an option my husband wants to do. We have nobody here who could monitor the place for us and we really can't dish out the money to have someone do it for us. We just need to sell it. It's a small cheaper home in a nice location so hopefully it will go sooner than later. I hope anyways.

[Tarastomsgirl]

Originally Posted by Suzet2262

I am ready to just buy a home out in Keene, that way we have 2 places we can live.

PLLLEAASEEE whatever you do don't do that! RENT RENT RENT.... really get a feel... Remember I was just like you desperate, raved about winter, and the town no less. Now I can't wait to get out, and if I never see snow again I won't be crying. Winter is long, and grey, and cold, and a lot more work goes into winter than summer ever will... Not trying to be negative, but just giving you a view on my experience from someone who's lived in a similar climate as you do now and from someone who never saw snow before this year. I've become tired of bundling up and then unbundling and then again , and the dog gets wet, and drags all the snow his fur caught in the house, car has to warm up like 20 mins before you leave house, etc.. Its just A LOT of work, more work than I could have ever realized, and after a while I don't even notice the snow, just dread the new storms that come cause its just MORE work I gotta do. Even my husband who LOATHES the heat is desperate to go back. I'm not saying don't move, but LISTEN to what people tell you about the winter, that is going to be your hardest ordeal living in NH.. The autumn was pretty, but was sooo short, it was like summer, autumn for 2 weeks then throw on the coats and heat.
Also being in Cali you're used to culture, good resturants with many choices, lots of entertainment etc. None of that here, there's no culture I've found and the talk of the town is a good show at the theater? Very limited choices in food, and entertainment, and during the weekend forget it, everythings closed. Its going to be a culture shock! Here let me give you an idea, the sentinal did a count down of the biggest stories in Keene for 07, top story- The Mayor recieved a parking ticket for illegaling parking in a spot during a movie premier downtown.. yah don't worry, he has "immunity" in the town, they withdrew the ticket, no lesson learned...

My mother in law warned me about all these things and I was like ya ya ya the snow is sooo pretty though, and I can curl up and drink hot chocolate and snuggle under the blankets... Yahhhhhhhhhh ummmmmm not really.... More like we had to get up several times in the middle of the night last night, to keep shoveling the drive way cause we got dumped with snow and the hub had to get up really early for work, and they don't plow our street even though we live downtown and he never would have gotten out. PLEASE suz really listen to the things people say about winter, and whatever you do visit in the snow before you move...... I visted last winter, but it was a freak winter and didn't snow all 3 times I visted!

[MamaBee]

Originally Posted by DareToDream

MamaBee - Has your hubby given you any reason for not moving? Have the two of you listed the pros and cons of such a move? It might help to have it all in black and white and go from there?

Thanks for the suggestion...I have plenty of pros and he has plenty of cons. We just can't agree.

Here are his reasons why:

1. He said there's no jobs there for him (we live in the biggest market for his profession).

2. Too far from family (my closest relative is 1 hour away, his parents are 4 streets away and he's never lived more than 2 miles from where he grew up) He won't live any further than 1 1/2 hours drive from his family.

3. He hates snow.

4. Says that too many people from MA are moving there and by the time we're ready to move it will be just like NJ & MA.

C'est la vie, there's no changing his mind.

[s2bmanchy]

You guys make Mass residents sound like parasitic aliens from out of space. Trust me we are not all that bad.

[Tarastomsgirl]

Originally Posted by MamaBee

Thanks for the suggestion...I have plenty of pros and he has plenty of cons. We just can't agree.

Here are his reasons why:

1. He said there's no jobs there for him (we live in the biggest market for his profession).

2. Too far from family (my closest relative is 1 hour away, his parents are 4 streets away and he's never lived more than 2 miles from where he grew up) He won't live any further than 1 1/2 hours drive from his family.

3. He hates snow.

4. Says that too many people from MA are moving there and by the time we're ready to move it will be just like NJ & MA.

C'est la vie, there's no changing his mind.

Having a job here is a huge issue, BUT if you lived in a town closer to Boston he could commute..

Family ordeal is hard, I will tell you personally its not fun living from family. The closest direct family we have are 1,500 miles away in Fl.. The next closest family (non direct) is over 2 hours away.. Holidays were spent alone just me and the husband.. and its hard when you see all the cars on your street from you neighbors having friends and family visiting but you have none.. Its just not the same, and all the snow in the world doesn't make it feel anymore like christmas.

If he hates snow he best stay away.. The seacoast might be a little better, but you're gonna get snow either way... we got dumped with almost a foot just last night alone..

I dunno about the last one, I haven't seen that personally where I am but maybe more by the coast?

[DareToDream]

Originally Posted by MamaBee

Thanks for the suggestion...I have plenty of pros and he has plenty of cons. We just can't agree.

Here are his reasons why:

1. He said there's no jobs there for him (we live in the biggest market for his profession).

2. Too far from family (my closest relative is 1 hour away, his parents are 4 streets away and he's never lived more than 2 miles from where he grew up) He won't live any further than 1 1/2 hours drive from his family.

3. He hates snow.

4. Says that too many people from MA are moving there and by the time we're ready to move it will be just like NJ & MA.

C'est la vie, there's no changing his mind.

That's too bad, but maybe you can come for a vacation! We still have family in the area from where we moved. My sister and her family, my mom, hubby's mom and dad, sister and her husband, hubby's son. My son is about 3 hours from us now, hubby's daughter is about 3 hours away. So...I can understand not wanting to be too far from family. As you said, c'est la vie...but do come for a vacation