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Old 12-07-2008, 06:42 PM
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I'm at a point in my life where I 40 something, I just got divorced, my home is for sale, my children are grown & are on their own, my mother just passed away, & I just got laid off from my job! I have the opportunity to start some where new! I have a relative in Texas that states it's cheaper to live there. I've been on line for job hunting in that area and there are tons of jobs I qualify for... Up here in NH it looks pretty bleak... the only thing that is holding me back is that I have a grand child that I adore and it would break my heart not to see him (he's only 4) If I move away is the grandma bond broken? How can I do stuff for myself without sacrificing my relationships with my children & grandchild!
Help! Paddling in circles.....
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Old 12-08-2008, 03:56 AM
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Small world! My wife and kids recently relocated to NH from the south to establish a family base (education, crime, etc were huge factors). I love Texas and I wanted to move there bad, BUT. Property taxes are the same in both states but the overall cost is cheaper there. Cost of living is approximately 10-20% cheaper and after being here for a short time I can definitely confirm that. Crime is high in Texas and the bad areas in NH are laughable. Education is 10 times better in NH, my kids absolutely love the school system.
I would not let a divorce move you away. I would move to another city and find another job. You need to understand the distance between relatives is tough. I have experience with that and in my family we barely know each other. As the years pass our Christmas gatherings became phone calls. Children will always love you through the tough times but if you have to move they will understand. I think, you have alot of questions to answer.
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Old 12-08-2008, 05:19 AM
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Maybe you need to go down there for a week and see if you like it? Maybe apply for some jobs and see what kind of a reception you get? You don't mention whether you've visited Texas but I can tell you it's an acquired taste- esp. for someone from NH. The better cities down there are Austin and San Antonio- the smaller towns would be a huge culture shock. Maybe doing that will help you make a firm decision. The grandchild is a major factor, but your own life & financial security still has to be no. 1 priority.
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