My husband and I are planning to relocate from the Seattle area to New England in 2-3 years. We're looking into buying land soon and then building a home when we're ready to make the jump.
I've begun researching the region and, so far, think (northern) NH looks near perfect. But, I'd like to get some advice from the folks who live (or have lived) there before I start narrowing down my search. If another state would make a better/similar fit, I'm happy to keep it in the running. I'd appreciate any info that could help us; so here's some information about us and what we're looking for:
We would like to get out of the corporate rat race and urban sprawl, and live in a smaller community where we could enjoy a modest lifestyle as artist-craftsmen on a large lot where we could have our home and studio (Zoning issues?). We won't be looking for the big bucks, a better quality of living is so much more important. We want to live somewhere that has four (or more

) seasons as opposed to two (hot/dry, and cold/wet). We've both lived in cold winter climates, and look forward to them again -- as long as the community is prepared for them.
If we need to subsidize our artistic income, my husband has strong software development and computer electronics and I have experience with software, administration/project management and print/graphic design. We'd like to telecommute if possible, so high speed internet would be a great plus; but a short (less than 30 min) commute to a related job would be good, too.
We strongly believe in self-sufficience and minding our own business. We respect diversity and people's right to live their lives their own way as long as it isn't forced on us -- we expect the same respect from others. We'd love to live where people are honestly friendly and polite, but not afraid to tell you things straight up (there's nothing worse than a smile to your face and a knife in your back!).
We are planning to build a near Zero Cost Home, with alternate power (solar and/or wind) and a (small) hydroponic garden. A community that offers net-metering for electric is critical. One that offers property tax reduction for energy efficient homes would be wonderful (but not essential - our current property taxes are around $1.5/sq ft). We expect the home and garden will help offset some COL expenses as well as being good for the environment and the community.
While WA doesn't have a state income tax, the sales and property taxes and COL in Seattle are on the high side. My husband's from the UK, where taxes are extremely steep. Vehicle registration is relatively cheap here, but I've lived in states where you were paying 5%+ on the Blue Book value every year. So I don't think we'll suffer from "sticker shock" in NH... but if there any hidden whammies, I'd love to hear about them.
Thanks in advance for your help and info!