I am originally from the pocket of NY that is 4 miles from NYC.
Does that make me a NY'er, or a NJ'ite?
We settled in the Mt. Washington Valley. While I have run into folk from NJ/NY that have settled up here too, by far the folks are native to the area.
That being said, I have YET to meet anyone here with the attitude & posturing of the folk from Bergen/NYC. The people in the valley are are good generous folk, and the area is all I looked for and more. We originally were looking at the areas from Rumney to Lincoln, in the valley there, but fell in love with our community, and the people therein.
I dare you not to find a place within this state you'll not want to call home.