Be careful what you wish for... (Manchester: how much, house, high school)

[RCMomto4]

Well, I posted a few days ago about relocating to NH. I took the advice from someone (I'm sorry, I forget who) and sent out feeler emails to some companies that looked promsing. Well, one actually called us and spoke to my husband at length. He was offered a position---NOW in the Manchester area including the Seacoast. It would be perfect---The company sounds great and the area is where we are looking--The money is good. The thing is we aren't ready. My oldest son will be a senior in HS next year and we thought we could move this time next year. We don't know what to do!

Just thought I'd post to everyone hoping to relocate---It can be closer than you think!

[kwiley1221]

That would be a tough decision. Starting over in a new HS on the other side of the country would be tough, especially for a HS SR. But the job opportunity sounds too good to turn down. My thought has always been that if it's meant to be then it will happen and it doesn't have a timetable. Just because NOW isn't the right time, doesnt mean that next year won't bring you a better offer. Just think of it as one more year of experience you'll get before you go and one more year to do some in-depth research into the areas and the companies in those areas.

I was talking to a company in NH a year ago and things kinda died off before they got too serious. Both sides were interested but it just never really got off the ground. Shame cuz we were really gearing up and looking forward to moving to NH. Now, one year later the same company is talking to me again and STILL very interested in me coming to work for them. I work in a highly specialized job, which is both good and bad. We're still going through the get to know each other (again) process, but I think it will happen this time...AND waiting a year has actually helped me out a bit in terms of my bargaining position.

You could make it work now if you really had to. And conversely if you wait, there's lots of good jobs out there if you're patient. It'll come up again if it's meant to be. One door may close, but another one always opens.

Good luck.

[east2west]

Moving senior year can be tough, but could also give opportunities to apply to northeast colleges and get a feel for the new england area before college. A lot of it will depend on the personality of your son and how much he is willing to make the change. If he is set on graduating from his current high school, I would wait for the next job opportunity. But, if your son, is open to the idea, it could end up being a great blessing to have this good paying job and get settled before college. Good luck to you!

[kwiley1221]

east2west: that's an execellent point.

Your son will also have to consider where he will be going to college. If he is going to follow you out east then it would be easier/better to already be out there so he can get a feel for which school he would want to attend. If he's dead set on a Cali school then it probably wouldn't hurt you none by waiting a year.

[GregW]

Hope your son has the sense of adventure to want to make the move. I moved in my senior year of HS (long time ago and not vouluntarily) from a suburban HS to an inner city slum school. Learned more about getting along (or not) with people in that year than in all the previous. I suspect you will not have to downgrade schools that much but, it will probably be good because as our society become more and more atomized, learning how to meet people and become part of their society will be more and more important and a very usefull skill.

I's say: Do It and welcome to NH.

[planbee]

Re: Just thought I'd post to everyone hoping to relocate---It can be closer than you think!

RCMom, when I read your posting a few weeks ago, I had an eerie feeling it was meant for me. My husband and I had decided to move to NH either this year or next year -- next year being preferable because we are expecting our second child in the fall, and because getting rid of our house in northern CA in this market will be quite challenging -- but, as I have learned, things rarely happen when you're "ready." My husband got a terrific offer, and we're going for it! We're very excited! We're both from the east coast (and have been in CA only a few years), and nearly our entire extended family is back there, so our kids will be able to see their grandparents, cousins, etc., much more often. Plus, we'll have four seasons again, which we are very happy about. We are also looking forward to living in a state where we'll get something in return for the taxes we'll pay. It's still hard to believe how awful CA's infrastructure is (roads, schools, etc.); it's really a shame. We're looking forward to our new adventure, and to meeting like-minded people like you and your family.

[RCMomto4]

Planbee--

That is so exciting!! I'm happy you'll get to move and be near your family again! For us, we'd be leaving family here but they can always visit!

Good luck and let us know when and where you get settled!

Janet

[Dwatted Wabbit]

Originally Posted by GregW

Hope your son has the sense of adventure to want to make the move. I moved in my senior year of HS (long time ago and not vouluntarily) from a suburban HS to an inner city slum school. Learned more about getting along (or not) with people in that year than in all the previous. I suspect you will not have to downgrade schools that much but, it will probably be good because as our society become more and more atomized, learning how to meet people and become part of their society will be more and more important and a very usefull skill.

I's say: Do It and welcome to NH.

Good post and it sounds so reality based. What a change for you, from the burbs to inner city life. It's an experience that you can't put a dollar sign on...if you survive it. Kinda like joining the service.

[Paula Lynn]

Can you financially afford a bi-coastal marriage for a year?

[planbee]

Re: That is so exciting!! I'm happy you'll get to move and be near your family again! For us, we'd be leaving family here but they can always visit! Good luck and let us know when and where you get settled!

Thank you so much! Will do! We'll be somewhere in Rockingham County...