Manasquan is certainly a good option. However, don't expect that you will
ever, ever be able to go from the Shore area to North Jersey in under an hour on summer weekends. And trains to NYC are usually long and expensive (plus, I believe you have to transfer in Long Branch or Newark). But living in the best area of New Jersey is most certainly worth it.
Other than that, welcome to the area. Go pick up a "LOCAL" sticker and slap it on your bumper.