Rutgers University to allow co-ed dorm rooms (Livingston: apartments, loan)
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Nothing all that crazy. I went to a Catholic university and our housing was done by levels in the dorm, all girls on one floor, all boys on the next, etc. Friends of mine went to schools where the floors were co-ed, but the rooms were single sex. Another went to American University in D.C. which allowed mixed gender rooms, this was 1998 BTW.
I don't think there is going to be any more hanky panky than what goes on normally. The issue I could see is when couples choose to share a room and later breakup, that can create all sorts of issues.
I gotta say, I don't get the whole gay angle to this. Shouldn't they be happy they are rooming with the same sex? You would think it would be straight people wanting this so a guy can live with his girlfriend, and vice versa.
The problem was, that if a gay student went looking for a roommate, very few straight same-sex students if any, were willing to room with them and they often ended up without a roommate. So now gay guys can room with female friends, and gay women can room with male friends.
I gotta say, I don't get the whole gay angle to this. Shouldn't they be happy they are rooming with the same sex? You would think it would be straight people wanting this so a guy can live with his girlfriend, and vice versa.
I think the gay angle was brought to light by Clementi, but has existed for a long time. There is often a large amount of animosity between straight and gay roommates, primarily centered on the straight roommate being concerned over whether or not the gay roommate is attracted to them, issues with changing in the room, sleeping, etc. Even if those concerns are completely unfounded.
Further gay roommates often feel uncomfortable in situations that would involve a partner. Even straight folks who might be fine with the situation otherwise, might draw the line at seeing the gay roommate with their partner. Two straight guys sharing a room think nothing of the other one engaging in extracurricular activities in the room with a girl, the same cannot be said if a gay roommate wanted to do the same.
I could see why a gay person would choose to room with someone of the opposite sex in order to eliminate the accusations and issues that can arise.
Edit to add: I think ocnjgirl was very correct on her assessment. Even if nothing I posted above was true, the straight same-sex roommate would generally try to avoid the situation all together for no other reason than to not be the brunt of his friends jokes.
Nothing all that crazy. I went to a Catholic university and our housing was done by levels in the dorm, all girls on one floor, all boys on the next, etc. Friends of mine went to schools where the floors were co-ed, but the rooms were single sex. Another went to American University in D.C. which allowed mixed gender rooms, this was 1998 BTW.
I don't think there is going to be any more hanky panky than what goes on normally. The issue I could see is when couples choose to share a room and later breakup, that can create all sorts of issues.
Exactly. If a college student is going to have sex with their SO, then they will whether or not they live in the same dorm room. Student couples should think long and hard before living together. I'm glad that they are implementing this, but I would be much happier if they finish completing the new housing units (specifically Livingston campus) anytime soon. It took them FOREVER just to make additions and improvements on the Livingston Student Center! Now the new dining hall is still under construction. Maybe they should make more apartments or have townhouses for a change!
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Originally Posted by GiantRutgersfan
I gotta say, I don't get the whole gay angle to this. Shouldn't they be happy they are rooming with the same sex? You would think it would be straight people wanting this so a guy can live with his girlfriend, and vice versa.
The sweet aroma of "living together" will more likely than not wear off eventually. It sounds great at first until you become attracted to someone else and break up with the SO. Then things can get REAL UGLY!!!!
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Originally Posted by ocnjgirl
The problem was, that if a gay student went looking for a roommate, very few straight same-sex students if any, were willing to room with them and they often ended up without a roommate. So now gay guys can room with female friends, and gay women can room with male friends.
I definitely agree. It's both a good and more flexible solution, seeing as that the students are, in most cases, ultimately paying (future loan payments) for their on-campus housing experience. Why not have more choice?
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