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Old 11-14-2011, 10:12 PM
 
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I have a question. My son who is Autistic attends college full time in NJ. My alimony ended in 2007. My son still receives child support but his father has never laid out a dime for college. He is in his fourth year and has 3 more to go. Does anyone know if My X husband should be contributing to any of these costs for college. Also, do you think my son can continue receiving child support until he graduates with his Masters degree. I pay for his car, our rent, food, you name it I do it all and we only get child support. I would love some input on this situation.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:38 AM
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How was this addressed in your divorce decree? I know it can be muddy, and when I got divorced, my lawyer said we might have to revisit it at college time because the question arises, if the kid is away at school, who exactly is incurring the living expenses?

I never went that route because the X didn't bother to pay his child support anyway except to toss me $50 here and there while she was growing up but when she started college, he agreed to split the costs with me (read: take out equal loans). Somehow paying child support, in his mind, was giving ME money, but paying for her college makes him a dad. Or something. Never could figure out his special brand of logic.
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Old 07-12-2012, 07:15 PM
 
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I had a question, does anybody know in Newjersey if the child goes to college, can the money be paid directly to the child. I'm tired of my husbands baby mamma now working, he's paying over 900.00 a month for one child. The child we have together I take care of that child. They have never been married, not even in a relationship, it's just one of those things. Of course I want to help my step daughter thur school, but I'm tired of her mother getting the money, I'm tired of her mother not working while she lay up with her man and my son gets nothing from his father, and he's a specials needs child, can somebody tell me which way to go. To me the court system is just messed up, before that give a motion for an order, they need to really look at the situation. I pray when my husbands go back to court that God gives him favor and let what is just be done.
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Old 07-13-2012, 04:07 PM
 
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I had a question, does anybody know in Newjersey if the child goes to college, can the money be paid directly to the child. I'm tired of my husbands baby mamma now working, he's paying over 900.00 a month for one child. The child we have together I take care of that child. They have never been married, not even in a relationship, it's just one of those things. Of course I want to help my step daughter thur school, but I'm tired of her mother getting the money, I'm tired of her mother not working while she lay up with her man and my son gets nothing from his father, and he's a specials needs child, can somebody tell me which way to go. To me the court system is just messed up, before that give a motion for an order, they need to really look at the situation. I pray when my husbands go back to court that God gives him favor and let what is just be done.
Does the kid have a bank account?
They can request the mother to direct deposit the money into that. Thats what I did when my son went to college. I never saw the money. Problem was that all of my support went there so I had to make sure I transferred it to mine.
Last time I checked; if child is considered a student & the money can't be switched directly to student unless mother agrees to it. It stinks
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Old 07-14-2012, 04:35 PM
 
Location: Tulsa, OK
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I had been going thru this for awhile....I was getting 130.00 a week. 95.00 for current support, the rest for arrears. I had to fight tooth and nail for 20 plus years. I should have gotten it until they all finished college. But he's been a dead beat since the 3 of them were born. I bit the bullet and took what I could get. When I married my 2nd husband, their father felt he should not have to pay anymore. Then my 2nd husband died, and he felt I should have gotten a settlement, so he shouldn't have to pay. Then, his parents told me to make the kids pay for their own college. Get a good lawyer and fight!
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