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Now I know alot of the threads here are real estate related but I figure we can vary it up abit.
I need some honest opinions from all of you as to when kids should stop receiving gifts. I have 30 people to give gifts to this year. The majority are kids from 1 to 18 years of age. It's becoming a real burden and alot of the older and teenage kids are not appreciating what I give them anymore. I haven't heard a thank you from them from the past few xmas.
Besides, they all want the Wii and the Ipod and other expensive stuff I can't possibility give them. What's an aunt to do?
Gift cards so they can buy what they wantfor the older ones....all though I have to admit my siblings and I stopped this years ago..giving to the nieces, nephews..to expensive, to stressful
We give gifts forever. I still get gifts from my parents (and I'm well over 50). And I give them gifts. Not because I HAVE to, but because I like doing it. You don't have to give anything big - even a little gift card is nice!
In our family, we give gifts to people until they have kids of their own and then we give gifts to the kids. We still do give gifts to the elders of the family (a few parents).
That being said, if I didn't get a thank-you via card, phone call or in person from any kid over 10, I wouldn't give to them anymore.
In our family, we give gifts to people until they have kids of their own and then we give gifts to the kids. We still do give gifts to the elders of the family (a few parents).
That being said, if I didn't get a thank-you via card, phone call or in person from any kid over 10, I wouldn't give to them anymore.
I like that mentality! No thank you? No gifts for you!
In our family, we give gifts to people until they have kids of their own and then we give gifts to the kids. We still do give gifts to the elders of the family (a few parents).
That being said, if I didn't get a thank-you via card, phone call or in person from any kid over 10, I wouldn't give to them anymore.
In our extended family we give gifts to the kids under 16. Once they reach 16 they go into the "adult pool", where we pull one name each year sometime in October and that's who we buy for. We all get together for a Christmas brunch the Sunday after Christmas. This year I only have the two names my husband and I pulled and four kids under 16 to buy for (scratch that -- just had a new baby born last week!-- make it 5 kids). Makes it much easier that way, and everyone is happy with it. The teenager in the group will get a gift card to FYE. Next year he goes into the adult pool as does my daughter.
i don't have any "older" nieces and nephews (oldest is 10), but I suspect what we'll do when everyone is older is do gift cards (itunes, clothes stores, etc). i think teens would like that much better than a material gift anyway.
if the expense is too much, talk to your siblings and see if you can do a grab bag, or just do the small gifts cards.
but i have a question - when my kids open presents from grandparents and aunts/uncles - they of course say thank you, but is a thank you note required as well? i'm a total stickler when it comes to this, but quite honestly sending TY's for Xmas gifts didn't even cross my mind. I don't get any from the nieces/nephews either (again, noone older than 10).
i don't have any "older" nieces and nephews (oldest is 10), but I suspect what we'll do when everyone is older is do gift cards (itunes, clothes stores, etc). i think teens would like that much better than a material gift anyway.
if the expense is too much, talk to your siblings and see if you can do a grab bag, or just do the small gifts cards.
but i have a question - when my kids open presents from grandparents and aunts/uncles - they of course say thank you, but is a thank you note required as well? i'm a total stickler when it comes to this, but quite honestly sending TY's for Xmas gifts didn't even cross my mind. I don't get any from the nieces/nephews either (again, noone older than 10).
I don't think kids know they're supposed to send 'thank you' notes.
It's hard enough getting a verbal thank you from them! Forget a note or a card.
We did kris kringle 2 years ago and my sister put her teenage kids in the pool. They were only getting that one gift for xmas so she decided to pull them out of the pool the past 2 years so they will get more. I think it's time to bring up the idea again. Especially 'cus her kids are the only ones who don't even thank me for their gifts! Brats!
A ThankYou note for a Christmas present???
Hmmmm, never heard of such a thing.
Besides, if the present came from a grandparent, aunt or uncle why would you send a note? A huge hug and even a phone call a day or two after Christmas telling someone that they really appreciated the present(s) that they received would be a great thank you, IMO.
but i have a question - when my kids open presents from grandparents and aunts/uncles - they of course say thank you, but is a thank you note required as well? i'm a total stickler when it comes to this, but quite honestly sending TY's for Xmas gifts didn't even cross my mind. I don't get any from the nieces/nephews either (again, noone older than 10).
I'm super high-strung regarding thank yous, and sending them promptly, and I have a very rigid reputation among family and friends on this front.
My stance on thank-yous is that they should always be sent when a person receives a gift for an event specifically for him/her (birthdays, communions, etc...), regardless of whether or not he/she says thank you in person.
For Christmas, where everyone is receiving gifts, I don't send thank yous.
Miss Manners and Emily Post would probably say a note should be sent for any gift. When in doubt, I always write the note.
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