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Old 10-29-2019, 01:08 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I shop frequently at places like Ulta and Harmon's (attracts a lot of Boomers and older people) and it bothers be when people who look 40 and older do not respect my personal space when it is my turn at the cash register. By common sense, when I am on deck in line, I stand before the row of cash registers begin.

I noticed that these people stand close to me a lot and it is especially when I am making returns. Yet, they are the ones who have the Karen haircut and act like Karens when they make the returns. I hate when they stand so close to me when it is the store's fault for taking too long to do a return. I went to Harmon's today trying to do a return and they were taking too long to do it (the cashier eventually called another cashier to open up) and this old man was standing close to me rather than before the row of cash registers. I just don't get why people who look 40 have to do this. It's rude and it's like you are reading over my shoulder. Stores need to act like DMVs, place a yellow line on the floor where "customers must wait behind the yellow line".

Is this a Jersey thing or a generational thing? Or is it because I am Indian where people stereotype us as cheap?
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:18 PM
 
Location: NJ
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i think that kind of stuff is generational. older generations have been raised to believe that they are the most important people in the world and they have a right to be in front of everyone else. so they will stand close and hope to cut you or just hope to let you know that you shouldnt take too long because they are waiting.
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:29 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Every time I see a post started by "Potanta" I know I'm in for a treat.

And no, I have never noticed this. Some people are just overly sensitive I guess...
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:34 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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i think that kind of stuff is generational. older generations have been raised to believe that they are the most important people in the world and they have a right to be in front of everyone else. so they will stand close and hope to cut you or just hope to let you know that you shouldnt take too long because they are waiting.
It sucks, I was the only person and there was no line and suddenly he pops up standing close to me. What a waste of space overpopulating this state when I could have had the line to MYSELF!
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:36 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Every time I see a post started by "Potanta" I know I'm in for a treat.

And no, I have never noticed this. Some people are just overly sensitive I guess...
I am the star of the New Jersey forum. I should make millions from the entertainment I provide.
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:37 PM
 
Location: NJ
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i think that kind of stuff is generational. older generations have been raised to believe that they are the most important people in the world and they have a right to be in front of everyone else. so they will stand close and hope to cut you or just hope to let you know that you shouldnt take too long because they are waiting.
I have noticed in the grocery store old people will stand at the register for 10 minutes counting out every penny to pay the exact amount of their bill. Not a care in the world that there are 5 other people in line behind them. I don't think this is really a matter of self importance though. I think it's a matter of not having any other care in the world at that moment. No other place to be. Meanwhile the rest of us have to go pick up the kids, get to practice, make dinner, etc. When I was younger I used to take my grandmother to the grocery store every weekend. We would often be there for an hour or more while she went up and down every single aisle. It drove me crazy at the time, but looking back on it, this was the only time she got out of the house during the week, so it was a day out to look forward to
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:39 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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This doesn't bother you at any other time? Strange. You have decided that you are the only person worthy of waiting for a cashier?

There are several solutions:

1. Move to the desert.
2. Stop bathing.
3. Wear some heinous scent and wear a LOT of it.
4. Grow up, get some counseling, and get over it.
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:41 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I have noticed in the grocery store old people will stand at the register for 10 minutes counting out every penny to pay the exact amount of their bill. Not a care in the world that there are 5 other people in line behind them. I don't think this is really a matter of self importance though. I think it's a matter of not having any other care in the world at that moment. No other place to be. Meanwhile the rest of us have to go pick up the kids, get to practice, make dinner, etc. When I was younger I used to take my grandmother to the grocery store every weekend. We would often be there for an hour or more while she went up and down every single aisle. It drove me crazy at the time, but looking back on it, this was the only time she got out of the house during the week, so it was a day out to look forward to
When I worked at ShopRite, I was usually polite to the older people taking a while to count change. I can understand that, because it's hard to move fast and to think straight when you are that old. Most of them usually wrote checks to save time anyways.

It sucks when people have to hold me up in line, I get what you are saying. I have work and school and mostly in a rush for things.
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:42 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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This doesn't bother you at any other time? Strange. You have decided that you are the only person worthy of waiting for a cashier?

There are several solutions:

1. Move to the desert.
2. Stop bathing.
3. Wear some heinous scent and wear a LOT of it.
4. Grow up, get some counseling, and get over it.
Speaking of deserts, I noticed that Californians are nicer in older generations.
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Old 10-29-2019, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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So stereotyping Indians is not OK, but stereotyping Caucasian women who choose to wear a particular hairstyle is OK?
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