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Old 11-12-2008, 12:52 PM
 
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Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen (http://www.ccdom.org/shelters.asp - broken link)

Ozanam Family Shelter in Edison provides emergency shelter for 16 single women and 26 families. The Ozanam Inn, located in New Brunswick, provides shelter to the homeless men of Middlesex County. The facility has 14 emergency shelter beds and 26 transitional housing beds. While living in the shelter, program residents work with case managers to improve their earning capacity and obtain permanent housing.
I have taken my daughter to a soup kitchen in the past... like most of us on here, we have a refrigerator full of food, and seeing that others don't have that was a real eye-opener to her.

Our current economy has made shelters busier then ever... with many people taking food for the first time.

I think that children should see this to appreciate what they do have, and should learn at an earlier age that we all should lend a helping hand to those who need it.

Remember the song "lean on me when you're not strong... I'll be you're friend, I'll help you carry on... for it won't be long til I'm gonna need somebody to lean on."

Let's hope that we don't need to lean on someone else... but if we do, it is nice to know people are there for us. A GOOD LESSON, especially for the coming holiday season.
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Old 11-12-2008, 01:02 PM
 
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Just be very careful with where you take a 7 year old, boy or girl. I have been to the main homeless shelters in Jersey City and Newark and I wouldn't want to take my daughters there to volunteer. Many are dumping grounds for the mentally in and have lice and diseases. I may sound harse but it's the truth. Now for the good side. I would go as an adult. But you can get her into volunteering at many other places. Stocking baskets at the local pantry to be delivered. Helping with the deliveries and so on. Good luck but be careful. JM
Valid points..if you don't know the shelter well, I wouldn't advise it either. But there are plenty of ways to help. You may also want to consider a charity like Eva's Village or Shelter our Sisters, they serve victims of domestic violence which are typically women and children.
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Old 11-12-2008, 01:16 PM
 
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Just be very careful with where you take a 7 year old, boy or girl. I have been to the main homeless shelters in Jersey City and Newark and I wouldn't want to take my daughters there to volunteer. Many are dumping grounds for the mentally ill and have lice and diseases. I may sound harse but it's the truth. Now for the good side. I would go as an adult. But you can get her into volunteering at many other places. Stocking baskets at the local pantry to be delivered. Helping with the deliveries and so on. Good luck but be careful. JM
Good points... I used to go to a homeless shelter once a month with the ladies from church. I would also recommend common sense precautions for adults. We locked all the purses in one of the ladies' trunk. Do not go in w/ cash, checkbook or credit cards. My mom had money stolen from her purse when she went w/ a group.

Before anyone lectures, I met wonderful people there and there are good and bad people everywhere. It just makes sense not to leave valuables around where anyone can get to them.
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Old 11-12-2008, 01:16 PM
 
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Valid points..if you don't know the shelter well, I wouldn't advise it either. But there are plenty of ways to help. You may also want to consider a charity like Eva's Village or Shelter our Sisters, they serve victims of domestic violence which are typically women and children.
My son gets a kick out of being "a helper" no matter how small the job is. Last year he "helped" by throwing all the plastic away from the wrapping paper. I hope this lasts the next 15 years
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Old 11-12-2008, 01:27 PM
 
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My son gets a kick out of being "a helper" no matter how small the job is. Last year he "helped" by throwing all the plastic away from the wrapping paper. I hope this lasts the next 15 years
Good luck to you on that Natalay! LOL I know just what you mean though.
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Old 11-12-2008, 02:57 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Default A Good Lesson ?

Does a child really need to learn a "lesson" like this at 7 ?
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Old 11-12-2008, 03:07 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Does a child really need to learn a "lesson" like this at 7 ?
I don't think so either, and not a good place for a 7yo girl.
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Old 11-12-2008, 03:37 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Valid points..if you don't know the shelter well, I wouldn't advise it either. But there are plenty of ways to help. You may also want to consider a charity like Eva's Village or Shelter our Sisters, they serve victims of domestic violence which are typically women and children.
I was under the impression that as responsible parents we are intrusted with the physical and mental welfare of our children. To safeguard their fragile, impressionable minds from that which would harm it. Why on earth would any responsible parent wish to drag a 7 year old girl into a shelter filled with abused and beaten women and children or see humanity at its worst/lowest in a soup kitchen ? I can't see any valuable lesson to be learned from this by a 7 year old.....this makes absolutely no sense to me at all ? Get a grip people !!!
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Old 11-12-2008, 05:22 PM
 
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FWIW - a homeless shelter is where some homeless people spend the night.

A soup kitchen is where people who don't have food go to eat.

The two are normally not in the same place much less run by the same charities. Nearly every shelter kicks everyone out in the morning so they can clean and as encouragement to the homeless to seek the help they need in getting their lives back on track.
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Old 11-12-2008, 08:16 PM
 
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I was under the impression that as responsible parents we are intrusted with the physical and mental welfare of our children. To safeguard their fragile, impressionable minds from that which would harm it. Why on earth would any responsible parent wish to drag a 7 year old girl into a shelter filled with abused and beaten women and children or see humanity at its worst/lowest in a soup kitchen ? I can't see any valuable lesson to be learned from this by a 7 year old.....this makes absolutely no sense to me at all ? Get a grip people !!!
Do you have kids?

See, not showing them, "Hi here is a woman who was just beaten within an inch of her life and a crack addict... now go play."

But making it clear that there are others in the world who are NOT as fortunate as they are is not a bad lesson. Especially in todays world, 7 today is a lot "older" than it was when we were 7. And by 7 A LOT of kids are 7 going on 27 (please see our thread on Halloween Costumes if you need elaboration.) Most kids today are all about whining that they don't have the most recent version of the X-box or that Mom won't let them get the I-phone... I don't advocate that ... but in a culture that is entralled with material obejcts and really sold on this "He who dies with the most toys wins" concept... I don't think it's a bad lesson for children to learn that the world is NOT perfect and they should be thankful for what they have - not always thinking of what they don't have.
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