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Old 02-05-2009, 05:59 AM
 
Location: Warren County and loving it!
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thanks all and I mean it. Lets put it this way, she found out yesterday and it was not a good day!! Things look bad and bleak.
Oh no. You need to keep your spirits up as much as humanly possible in this situation.

Feel free to DM me if you need to vent further.
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Old 02-05-2009, 06:41 AM
 
Location: Chester, NJ (Morris County)
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I am so sorry, Marilyn..... Try to spend as much time as possible with your mom....
My thoughts and prayers are with you...
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Old 02-05-2009, 08:13 AM
 
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So sorry to hear.... as you can see there are many thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family. Mine, too.
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Old 02-05-2009, 08:52 AM
 
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I'm sorry. Know you're not alone.
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Old 02-05-2009, 08:28 PM
 
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My prayers are with you and family..

Do not blame the Lord for your ill-fate, because the Lord's ill fate is what has given us all, our lives!
Be thankful for each and every day you have together, and ALWAYS, say, "I Love You", to those you care the most about.

Hope, outweighs all doubt
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Old 02-05-2009, 08:37 PM
 
Location: new jersey
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marilyn,
i wish there was a magic wand i could wave to take away the fear and pain. not knowing what is going to happen is so scary. in a way you have been given a small gift in that you will have time to say everything you want to your mom. tell her how much you love her, share memories, stories and make the time you have left really special.
i don't believe that any doctor can really say how long someone has. there are always those that break the "rules" and beat the odds. try to keep positive thoughts. let your mom know she can talk about it with you, or not.
i will keep you, and your mom and dad in my prayers. i am not religious but i've seen firsthand just how powerful prayers can be. and there are many here who know and care about you.
if you need to talk, dm and i'll be glad to.
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Old 02-06-2009, 03:42 AM
 
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it is truely amazing how the mind can just block it all out. I am going thru my day like a robot in a routine. So far she is not keeping food down so they have to see if their is cancer in the stomach or its what they originally thought the gall bladder and stones. Now when they went to take the gall bladder, thats when they found the cancer, thus not taking the gall bladder out. This makes no sense to me, I mean your in there, she is having the operation why put it back?? They dont have pathology back yet, and they are doing a cat scan to see whats up with the stomach. I am going tommorrow to the hospital . I have called on the phone and spoke with her, but she does not feel like talking and she thinks she is going to die. The one good news is she is not in pain.

Thanks all and I will in the next few days keep the updates going.
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Old 02-06-2009, 05:01 AM
 
Location: NJ
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i so know what your going through. i went through it with my mom. for 2 years she suffered. they could not find what was wrong with her. she was just so tired all the time. she was forgetting things. she could hardly work. her main dr told her she was depressed. she could have sworn she had lyme's.so test after test they found nothing. they were looking in the wrong place. she had brain tumors. by the time they found it it was in stage 4. the last 6 months of her life were terrible. she was home but she just could'nt function. the last few days she was in and out of it. saying weird things. i knew it was close but do you know the night before she died. plain as day she said"i love you debbie". and that night she was gone. she was my best friend . its been 2 years and i still feel lost and empty without her. my mom was the best mom in the world. keep praying even though i prayed so hard and so much i just knew it was not meant to be and i accepted it. good luck and i will pray for you
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Old 02-06-2009, 05:48 AM
 
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i so know what your going through. i went through it with my mom. for 2 years she suffered. they could not find what was wrong with her. she was just so tired all the time. she was forgetting things. she could hardly work. her main dr told her she was depressed. she could have sworn she had lyme's.so test after test they found nothing. they were looking in the wrong place. she had brain tumors. by the time they found it it was in stage 4. the last 6 months of her life were terrible. she was home but she just could'nt function. the last few days she was in and out of it. saying weird things. i knew it was close but do you know the night before she died. plain as day she said"i love you debbie". and that night she was gone. she was my best friend . its been 2 years and i still feel lost and empty without her. my mom was the best mom in the world. keep praying even though i prayed so hard and so much i just knew it was not meant to be and i accepted it. good luck and i will pray for you
you just knocked me out of my robot state with that story. Now Im in crying state. Ohh what a terrible ordeal. However, she did say she loved you at the end, I think that would make me breakdown everytime I think of that. Now lets look at the positive side, she is in heaven which I do believe and somehow her presence is there. Thanks deb for sharing that. These stories are comforting in a way to me. I think the hardest part is when I get out of robot stage and deal with it. Because I never lost anyone close I think that like after two weeks of death, knowing I cant talk, call, see or visit it will hit.
Right now I am ok. Thanks I am going to need help dealing with it after she passes. OR to say anyone close to me who passes.
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Old 02-06-2009, 07:15 AM
 
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My Dad died years ago and it does get easier with time. I truely believe he is around when I need him. My advise is to enjoy what time you have left and don't hold back on your feelings. Tell your Mom how much you love her every day. I was shy with my Dad and did not say what I really felt and regret that I didn't tell him how much he ment to me out loud. I know he knew it but I really regret holding back on my feelings. Keep a positive attitude, miracles do happen. Doctors always predict the worst so that when a miracle does happen they look like the best doctor in the world!
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