How about the Ocean port, Atlantic Highlands, Monomouth Beach area? Its closer than the southern and central end of the jersey shore, and closer to Jersey City
I would suggest Atlantic Highlands and Monomouth Beach areas as Well As Sea Bright .
Seastreak Offers commuter service to and From Manhattan-Via Atlantic Highlands
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From there you could get PATH to Jersey City area
and local bus
Service - PATH - Port Authority of New York & New Jersey
would probably be better than driving in every day sanity wise
If you did drive you could drive 36 N to 35 N
to Perth/Amboy
get on 440 - Richmond PKWY -
to West Shore Expressway on Staten Island
440 N
to Staten Island Expressway 278 E to
440 N - WillowBrook Expressway
and exit at Kennedy Blvd in Bayonne
Take Kennedy Blvd in Bayonne to Jersey city
that would be the best route -
but I would suggest trying the Commuter boat to Manhattan route and then PATH/bus to jersey city
might be less stressful and more relaxing commute
you could get work done on the boat and I'm sure they might have wifi by now
Just a thought