I would recommend, Manalapan, Marlboro or Freehold twp. You are in a better school system, plenty of shopping off 9. Depending on what town your are in, it's 10 miles from Turnpike or Gardenstate. These areas do not have any water problems or criminal issues. Taxes are b/t 8-20k. You get what you pay for, plus these areas have plenty of New Yorkers (comfort level). I hoped I helped you. Oh, also avoid Toms river(water Problems). I am still looking myself. I've been here renting in Freehold and trying to find a home for about 1 yr, if have more questions, I would be glad to answer them.
Mike