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Old 09-18-2010, 01:32 AM
 
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I recently moved to NYC (2 months ago) and wanted to share my thoughts as an "outsider" that moved here.

Many people (myself included) think New York City is made up of nothing but RUDE, obnoxious, and 'tough' people. Based on TV, or movies, the media, etc., many are led to believe the most people in NYC are unhappy, nasty people caught up in the "rat race" of living in the "concrete jungle" of the world's most densely populated metropolis.

After just a short amount of time of living here, I can now say that all of that is a LOAD OF B.S. It couldn't be further from the truth. Sure, there are rude, unhappy, obnoxious people in ANY city, but this is greatly exaggerated when it comes to NYC.

Because there are so many people living in NYC, practically everywhere you go you will be amongst a crowd of people. And when you're amongst a crowd of people (i.e. strangers) it can be a LONELY and ISOLATED feeling. It's just natural. And it's only natural to think that all those people don't give a crap about you and only care about themselves; which makes you feel like they are unhappy and you are unwanted.

I honestly think that NYers are some of the nicest people around. What makes NYers special is that because of the unique, highly populated environment in which they live, they realize that "everyone is in this together" and it wouldn't work unless everyone appreciated that reality.

What tourists (or NY newbies) need to know, in my opinion, is that you reap what you sow. If you want NYers to appear more friendly, then take the initiative and be openly friendly to someone - a cab driver, a waiter, a doorman, etc. I find that using the simple line of "so how's your day going?" really gets a great response from most people. And certainly not everyone you ask that to you is going to give you a "happy, chatty" response, but you'd be surprised. I've had some great conversations with strangers just by asking that.

I find NYers incredibly HELPFUL if you need help. With directions, advice, etc. Again, I think it goes back to the fact that they realize everyone needs to find a way to coexist in this densely populated metropolis or it wouldn't work.

What really drove this point home for me was about a week ago... I saw a guy fall off his bike in the street. It wasn't a major accident or anything, but he fell of his bike and got a little scratched up. What was amazing to see is that no less than 5 people IMMEDIATELY rushed up to him to make sure he was okay. Even after he walked his bike over to the side of the street and took a seat on the curb to take a break, multiple people kept going over to him to again ask if he was okay and if he needed anything.

Anyway, just some thoughts I wanted to share of my own personal experience with NYC.
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Old 09-18-2010, 07:27 AM
 
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I disagree
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Old 09-18-2010, 08:45 AM
 
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I don't disagree
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Old 09-18-2010, 08:52 AM
 
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Born and raised in the south, I definitely heard my share of negative NYC and northern stereotypes. After visiting the city and living there for a while I agree with you that nothing can be further from the truth. New Yorkers are some of the nicest, most helpful people out there.

A lot of people mistake assertiveness for rudeness. You have to be assertive in a city as large and as busy as NYC to survive. I encounter far more rudeness on a regular basis in Atlanta than I ever did in New York. I'm not saying New Yorkers don't have the capability to be rude, but I think it's more of a matter of misinterpretation and outsiders refusing to take the city's unique environment into account.
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Old 09-18-2010, 11:57 AM
 
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I absolutely agree.

In fact, my boyfriend and I were just talking the other day about how incredibly friendly New Yorkers are to one another.

I find tourists to be rude and disrespectful 99 percent of the time. If they're rude, I'm rude. However, I will gladly give directions, make small talk, etc., if someone is kind and polite.
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Old 09-20-2010, 10:34 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn, NY
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I absolutely agree.

In fact, my boyfriend and I were just talking the other day about how incredibly friendly New Yorkers are to one another.

I find tourists to be rude and disrespectful 99 percent of the time. If they're rude, I'm rude. However, I will gladly give directions, make small talk, etc., if someone is kind and polite.
Totally agree with you, some tourist will step on your foot on the train and either act like they didn't or look at you and not say sorry or excuse me.

If you want to be rude, then guess what you are going to get back.

I give directions all the time, it's not a problem.

I even had a conversatioin on the train with a group of teens on a senior trip from Mississippi and they were telling me about their experience here.
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Old 09-20-2010, 11:38 AM
 
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We've got the toughest exterior with the softest interior-enough said!
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Old 09-20-2010, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Crown Heights, Brooklyn
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it simply based on where you live. Some places if you even look up at a person your gonna get an smack or worse. Thats messed up. In prospect heights, I have met gangstas who are will to take time out to warn you of the enviorment. I consider that to be nice.
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Old 09-22-2010, 07:42 AM
 
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I agree as well. There are definitely those who fit the stereotype, but for the most part I think New Yorkers love where they are and are therefore happy friendly people. I recently moved from New York to Austin which is supposed to be one of the friendliest cities in America. I admit I notice a difference, but not in intention just in applcation. People down south are just extremely outgoing about their friendliness. Up north we're more introverted about it and southerners are used to their form of friendliness and find us rude.
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Old 09-22-2010, 08:36 AM
 
Location: LES & Brooklyn
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it simply based on where you live. Some places if you even look up at a person your gonna get an smack or worse. Thats messed up. In prospect heights, I have met gangstas who are will to take time out to warn you of the enviorment. I consider that to be nice.


So you are saying to walk with your head down in NYC or get smacked in some places???? Where might this be because I have never heard, seen or participated in such smackings!!!

As far as the OP stated about NYers.. I do feel like we are always in a rush which plays a huge role for us in being nice.. It’s like a lot of folks have no time to be nice.. We are too busy to take 2 seconds out to do a good deed! .. Sometimes I only wish NYers would take a little more time in being more patient!
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