Apartment in New York - is anyone any fun? (apartments, for rent)

[crapmanjoe]

Hey all,

Whats the story with all the "room to share" listings on Craigslist for Manhattan sounding like they are written by the most boring/dull/anal people in the world.

All seem to be
No parties
No friends over
No "stay over" friends
No drinking
Must be clean freak
Must be out of the apartment all day
No noise from you're room

I'm a full time professional who is moving to NYC in a couple of weeks and will be working prob 9-7 5 days a week and am not looking for all day, every day house parties.

But if i want to have a few drinks now and again, or have people over now and again I certainly don't think that should be a problem. I thought NYC was suppoused to be a great fun place to live in you're twenties. The way some of these listings are posted it seems to be a great place for a retirement village!

/rant over/

Whats the best way to go about finding normal housemates who seem to be a bit of fun, really not fussy (well aside from rent cost).

[ohiogirl22]

Find an apartment that you want to share and then post your own listing. Then you can be the person making the rules. Just make sure you save up enough for the initial move in.

[crapmanjoe]

Originally Posted by ohiogirl22

Find an apartment that you want to share and then post your own listing. Then you can be the person making the rules. Just make sure you save up enough for the initial move in.

Hmm, not a bad idea, be a bit of a squeeze forking up for apartment by myself

Guess I'm just wondering is there any other apartment sharing website, craigslist seems to be mainly people looking to rent a room in their apartment and pretty much just want you to pay rent!

Guess im looking for a room in an aparment where everyone is equal!

[EastBoundandDownChick]

Also be sure to find someone with the same smoking preferences as you. Evidently now you can't even smoke outdoors there. I couldn't smoke in my apartment when I lived there. At least I could light up one of my $13-a-pack cigarettes outside then. Screw the government interfering with peoples' lives like that.

[Kefir King]

Guess im looking for a room in an aparment where everyone is equal!

Now that the USSR has broken up, I guess Moscow is OUT then.

[sekhmet1974]

I think I can answer this question as to the why....the "must be out of the apartment" at any time of the day is weird unless they are offering some kind of incredible rent break because they work from home. Other than that, you are probably finding this because nyc is so congested and we are all practically living on top of each other...people do have fun (too much sometimes...this is a huge drinking city), but most people do it going out...you tend to spend very little time at home and when you do, it's your haven from the city....so as much peace and quiet you can get there, or just chill time, is valuable.
The no parties I can understand, then, although the no alcohol at all or no friends seems extreme. However it sounds like you are trying to rent a room from an already established apartment, where everything in the place is theirs, and they are just trying to get a good situation to keep their space nice. You would be better off getting your own place or going in on a place with someone else or listing your own ad as someone suggested. There is another list for artists that lists weekly via a listserv/email list roommate to share, rooms for rent, apartments for rent, art studios for rent, and then all of those also for sublet. There is also a section where you can list who you are, what you are looking for, etc. Google the Stephanie. Diamond listings for more info and to get on this list (small donation to list is required and also suggested if you find a place through her list). Hth.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by crapmanjoe

Hey all,

Whats the story with all the "room to share" listings on Craigslist for Manhattan sounding like they are written by the most boring/dull/anal people in the world.

All seem to be
No parties
No friends over
No "stay over" friends
No drinking
Must be clean freak
Must be out of the apartment all day
No noise from you're room

I'm a full time professional who is moving to NYC in a couple of weeks and will be working prob 9-7 5 days a week and am not looking for all day, every day house parties.

But if i want to have a few drinks now and again, or have people over now and again I certainly don't think that should be a problem. I thought NYC was suppoused to be a great fun place to live in you're twenties. The way some of these listings are posted it seems to be a great place for a retirement village!

/rant over/

Whats the best way to go about finding normal housemates who seem to be a bit of fun, really not fussy (well aside from rent cost).

Yikes! It sounds like prison with those rules!

It is defiantly possible to find fun, yet balanced responsible roomates in your twenties! And NYC IS a fun place at that age. You must have a life, esp working to earn a living. If you look for roommate(s), make sure to screen them carefully..It might be a good idea if you have a good prospect to go out for a drink, or lunch. This takes the out of their "turf" so to speak..You get a better Idea of how they function. Your health and safety must come first, so please exercise sound judgment

As this is a business first thing..I would get in writing what is expected from each other. It must be very clear, as the day-to-day things often cause the most friction.

Stay well and live it up, young man Brooklyn boy says "hell yeah!"

[tpk-nyc]

Originally Posted by crapmanjoe

Hey all,

Whats the story with all the "room to share" listings on Craigslist for Manhattan sounding like they are written by the most boring/dull/anal people in the world.

People tend to err on the side of caution with roommates. In less expensive cities friends tend to get apartments together. In New York, it’s common to move in with a total stranger.

Think about it: if you were advertising for a roommate wouldn’t you be concerned if the person’s a slob, or a drunk, or had a boy/girlfriend that practically moved in with you, etc.? Also, have you been in a New York apartment? Most shared apartments for people in their 20s (especially in Manhattan) are tiny. They’re often subdivided with very thin walls, or the living room has been converted into a bedroom, etc. It’s rare to find fine a true (i.e., purpose built) two-bedroom apartment for a roommate situation without spending a lot of money.

Manhattanites live in public. That’s why there are so many bars and restaurants. Very few people (especially under the age of 35) have the space to entertain at home. An apartment's a place to sleep and take a shower.

[nightcrawler]

dont do a roommate thing, try to afford it yourself.

roomies always run into problems.

[Henna]

Originally Posted by sekhmet1974

I think I can answer this question as to the why....the "must be out of the apartment" at any time of the day is weird unless they are offering some kind of incredible rent break because they work from home. Other than that, you are probably finding this because nyc is so congested and we are all practically living on top of each other...people do have fun (too much sometimes...this is a huge drinking city), but most people do it going out...you tend to spend very little time at home and when you do, it's your haven from the city....so as much peace and quiet you can get there, or just chill time, is valuable.
The no parties I can understand, then, although the no alcohol at all or no friends seems extreme. However it sounds like you are trying to rent a room from an already established apartment, where everything in the place is theirs, and they are just trying to get a good situation to keep their space nice. You would be better off getting your own place or going in on a place with someone else or listing your own ad as someone suggested. There is another list for artists that lists weekly via a listserv/email list roommate to share, rooms for rent, apartments for rent, art studios for rent, and then all of those also for sublet. There is also a section where you can list who you are, what you are looking for, etc. Google the Stephanie. Diamond listings for more info and to get on this list (small donation to list is required and also suggested if you find a place through her list). Hth.

That list is not intended for the general public. I know you know that because you mentioned it in another post. I guess you just need the attention?