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Old 02-02-2012, 07:07 PM
 
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very true. a therapist should be able to tell you the modality they are trained in and how many years they have been a therapist, but they've also been trained in boundaries, so if you inquire, chances are they will put something like "what does it mean to you for me to be heterosexual, married for decades,, male, English speaking?", etc out there to you

if they were forthcoming about their marital status etc it would undermine the quality, meaning of and intent of treatment and distort the transference that you might have to the therapist
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Old 02-03-2012, 06:35 PM
 
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Generally you'll know whether your therapist is married. Per the other posts in the thread, you won't get lots of personal details, like length of marriage, prior divorce info, etc. And if you ask for all this while screening therapists, you'll likely encounter resistance.
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Old 02-03-2012, 07:03 PM
 
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when i was 24 and dropped of school for the second time and having lots of relationship issues, my therapist who was 40 (female) freely told me she was divorced, had a boyfriend, and had a daughter who was 12. she told me she lived on a commune when she was 20, but i think she did it in relation to the issues i was having, and i was taking a class that she was giving at the local college and her boyfriend was taking that class, so she figured i guess i would find out in time anyway

i never asked her to reveal that stuff but she voluntarily did anyway. i was fine with it. i think there are times when self disclosure from the therapist is appropriate, other times not
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Old 02-04-2012, 02:44 PM
 
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Hello Bellekin123,

This article, "Need Therapy? A Good Man Is Hard to Find," by BENEDICT CAREY, was published--at least online--on May 21, 2011, by The NYT. It describes the "feminization of therapy."

My friend would like a father figure with whom to consult. This is an understandable need from a man who was under-fathered.

og
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Old 02-04-2012, 02:48 PM
 
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Hello JayBrown80,

"Need Therapy? A Good Man Is Hard to Find," by Benedict Carey, describes--to no one's surprise--that only a male therapist can have the unique point of view of what it is to be a man. My friend would like a father figure with whom to consult. In so far as marriage is a cruicible, my friend would also like to hear from someone who has actually survived decades of marriage to the same woman.

Thank you for responding, JayBrown80.
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Old 02-04-2012, 02:51 PM
 
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Hello RLRL,

Thank you for that. That is how I was hoping to come by this information--that someone who'd had the kind of male therapist I described would pass me his name. Because, in agreement with earlier posters, one cannot get this information off an insurance listing :~) And

Cheers,
OG
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Old 04-14-2012, 11:47 PM
 
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[/quote] Well sure honey, we can get some couples therapy, BUT....the therapist has to be a 5th generational straight aborigine named Dave whose favorite color is purple and he likes slow jazz.".

But hey, to each their own.[/quote]

haha I might make this my FB status thanks
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