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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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What?? Give me a break...
How old are you?

Where did you grow up?

Where are you living now?
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:43 PM
 
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You speak of a vibe you put out that keeps you from getting work and such, so it was a reasonable question.
I'm not "trapped" anywhere. I'm a white man who grew up around black and spanish people and that's the vibe I give off. Not ghetto, etc. I just carry myself differently.

BTW, I'm not trying to be rude to you, either.
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:46 PM
 
Location: now nyc
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I'm not "trapped" anywhere. I'm a white man who grew up around black and spanish people and that's the vibe I give off. Not ghetto, etc. I just carry myself differently.

BTW, I'm not trying to be rude to you, either.
Can you please elaborate on that a little. How do you "carry yourself"?
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:48 PM
 
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How old are you?

Where did you grow up?

Where are you living now?
I grew up in East Flatbush. I live in a much better neighborhood now. I'm in my late 20's.
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:51 PM
 
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Can you please elaborate on that a little. How do you "carry yourself"?
Like someone who grew up in black culture. I don't know what else to tell you...
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:54 PM
 
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Definitely. For a lot of people, race is a culture, and if you don't fit the culture ascribed to you by society based on your skin color, people will give you a lot of grief for it.
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:54 PM
 
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Definitely. For a lot of people, race is a culture, and if you don't fit the culture ascribed to you by society based on your skin color, people will give you a lot of grief for it.
You get it.
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:57 PM
 
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You get it.
A lot of people in my family are Black and for many years I was the only white person in my family, among my friends, and in my neighborhood. Add blindness to the picture and a lot of people would actually assume that I--wait for it--didn't know I was white, or that I didn't know they were Black. Lol.
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Unread 07-08-2012, 01:59 PM
 
Location: now nyc
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Like someone who grew up in black culture. I don't know what else to tell you...
I do know that most job interviewers (especially for office and management positions) look for people who come off as refined, calm and professional.

You say you have the mannerisms of somebody who grew up in "African American culture" but unfortunately,'Black youth culture' is not known to have the traits that I described above, so that could be a reason why your having a very hard time finding employment.
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Unread 07-08-2012, 02:03 PM
 
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I understand where you're coming from. I am myself am white and grew up (and live) in Brooklyn.

There are definitely white people in NYC who are comfortable around non whites (specifically Blacks and Latinos) and those who are not. I've met people who grew up in Brooklyn or the Bronx of all places but are so honky it's funny. You'd think they grew up somewhere in the Midwest.

Although, as others have said, you can't go to a job interview and act/talk in the same manner as you would with a group of Black/ Latino friends.
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