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07-10-2012, 07:15 AM
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Location: On a Long Island in NY
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Originally Posted by howdydoody342
like those that just graduated college that live in the city say from 20's to 30s? Obviously there are so many different cultures and classes of people that you cant blanket all of them to say they are but how true is it that women there are overly pretentious and want to live fantasy lifestyles while looking for the wall street banker who will support their fantasies?
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As someone who lives and grew up on Long Island I will say that every single one of my female friends that have moved to NYC fall into this category. They all think they are living Sex in the City or something. |
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07-10-2012, 08:48 AM
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As someone who lives and grew up on Long Island I will say that every single one of my female friends that have moved to NYC fall into this category. They all think they are living Sex in the City or something.
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i know a lot of girls that im friends with that live in the city currently are like this that are from affluent suburbs outside the city. |
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07-10-2012, 10:10 AM
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stop paying "superficial young women" any mind.
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07-10-2012, 10:52 AM
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Location: San Francisco
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People in general are superficial. Ever hang out with dudes in their 20s and 30s? Every chick with fifteen extra grams on her is a lard butt. Her nose is too weird. Her nails are too short. Etc, etc, ad infinitum. Unsurprisingly, most of this stuff is ignored if she's DTF.
I live in Toronto, which is notorious for being a town that's tough on singles looking to date and make friends. There's many more single men than single women, plus most of the communities, especially arts, are extremely cliquey. Here, dating is ridiculously difficult for a young guy if you don't fall into the Alpha category as it is a live-to-work, expensive city full of Canadian/int'l transplants who want to max out their earning potential ASAP (pretty much exactly like NYC). From my experiences, and I've been on a couple dozen dates, it's not so much superficiality as complete, conscious awareness of how much more they are in demand than I am. So, naturally, you have to put up with the game which women (at least here) have mastered, particularly post-college, post-sexual awakening women. I'm not lying when I say that all but one of these dates resulted in the woman prepping for the chase and running me into the ground if I go along AND/OR running me into the ground and trying to make me feel small and inadequate if I don't. The one that didn't? She's honest with herself and with me and we're still together years later. It's also difficult to call women out on this behaviour, but it really is very common. After a while, if men keep mentioning how shallow and self-involved a significant number of young women are, there has to be some fire where there's smoke. We're all not broke, boring, unlikeable, slobby Chuds, which is the common retort to this criticism.
But I feel like I can never discuss this type of behaviour for fear of being labelled misogynist. Either way, women do incredibly manipulative things when they know you're looking for companionship. Maybe men do the same, I don't know. But I do know that my HELLISH period of navigating the dating scene here has turned me off the idea permanently, even if my current relationship goes south. I'm never going into those waters again.
I imagine if the ratios are a bit off in NYC like they are here, the same kind of thing happens.
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07-10-2012, 12:22 PM
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all u have to do is look around at the media, everything is tailored toward women looking perfect, finding the perfect man, he must do all these things. Magazines like cosmopolitan and shows like sex and the city seem like they have ruined women into have insane standards. Obviously there are a ton of men that are no better that are looking for the perfect chick but it is aggravating
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07-10-2012, 01:34 PM
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Originally Posted by howdydoody342
like those that just graduated college that live in the city say from 20's to 30s? Obviously there are so many different cultures and classes of people that you cant blanket all of them to say they are but how true is it that women there are overly pretentious and want to live fantasy lifestyles while looking for the wall street banker who will support their fantasies?
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I call them tourists. But you might be reaching for ladies who are out of your league. Everyone is looking to trade up, it's nothing personal. Love isn't enough: money and future earning potential matter as well because the cost of living is so high here it takes a lot of dough to make conditions ideal for starting a family. So if you're earning less than 6 figures, and aren't really going anywhere in your career you're going to have a tough time wooing women in a similar or higher income bracket. |
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07-10-2012, 01:55 PM
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Location: Forest Hills
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I wouldn't say superficial. I would say picky. The ones that live in Manhattan have good careers and expect their man to also have a good career. They also have a wide selection of guys to choose from, as opposed to other areas upstate where the choices are limited. They also aren't desperate to find some guy since most are happy living a single lifestyle when living in the city. Not saying all girls are like this, but I could see a lot like it.
If you dress in tattered sweat pants, work at a fast food joint, and never have money to do anything, why would any career oriented woman want to date you when there are plenty of guys that dress well, have a nice job, and live in a nice place.
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07-10-2012, 02:03 PM
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i wouldn't necessarily say superficial but i think most professional women in nyc know how they stack up. They know what they are worth and less likely to settle for anything less.
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07-10-2012, 03:02 PM
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Location: Bronx
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i wouldn't necessarily say superficial but i think most professional women in nyc know how they stack up. They know what they are worth and less likely to settle for anything less.
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Not all the time if there is some sort of deal breaker or trade off like the guy is extremely cute, hot handsome however he is broke or not in a career a professional women will still take a guy and use him as a show piece to boost her ego amongst peers in her circle. |
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07-10-2012, 03:05 PM
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Location: Harlem World
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Originally Posted by Bronxguyanese
Not all the time if there is some sort of deal breaker or trade off like the guy is extremely cute, hot handsome however he is broke or not in a career a professional women will still take a guy and use him as a show piece to boost her ego amongst peers in her circle.
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This is very true  |
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