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New York City seems to have a lot of F.O.B. Asian women. In other cities, it's the opposite, e.g. in my city of Washington DC the Asian women are Americanized and mostly American-born. There are hardly any F.O.B.s in cities such as mine.
There's a tremendous difference here,
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As someone who has lived in both DC and NYC i have noticed that difference in background as well.
New York City seems to have a lot of F.O.B. Asian women. In other cities, it's the opposite, e.g. in my city of Washington DC the Asian women are Americanized and mostly American-born. There are hardly any F.O.B.s in cities such as mine.
There's a tremendous difference here, I can see why many posters here have written about the "submissive" character of Asian women, because they're probably describing NYC's first-generation immigrant women. There is nothing at all "submissive" or meek about American-raised Asian women, however, they are fully Westernized. I was a bit puzzled when I read these posts, since Americanized Asian women are very assertive and confident (and speak perfect American English -- they also dress a lot better than the F.O.B.s, but more on that below).
I had an earlier post here which I erased. But, to summarize the main points why I, as a white male, find Asian women quite attractive (note: I only find Americanized Asian women attractive -- not the F.O.B.s), they are these:
* They are stylish and dress well. This is by the far the most important point. Visual qualities are very important to men and American-Asian women are pretty much the only ones in this country (with the exception of Eastern-Euros, who are nowhere to be found these days, for some reason) who will wear heels, make-up, and sexy clothes.
* They have dark hair which is extremely attractive. I've talked to various friends and we all find brunettes attractive. I think someone should really do a study on the whole "Gentlemen prefer blondes" myth which seems to be the biggest hoax perpetuated on mankind LOL.
* Not religious. This is very important because this makes them flexible and easily integratable into any culture. In contrast to, for example, Latinas and Black women (both extremely religious groups), and also some European Catholics.
* Educated. Asian women tend to be well-educated and have degrees.
Let me repeat, my comments above only apply to Americanized-Asian women, i.e. those with American culture and Western looks. With regard to recently-arrived Asians who've only been in the country for less than 5 years and speak broken English, I personally do not find them attractive, although I'm sure many other men do.
This post articulates a lot of what I'd also been thinking. And I've not yet met a "submissive" asian woman here, quite the opposite. I was thinking people have been watching too much Shogun or something...
I'd add to your list of qualities: a general emotional maturity and lack of childish drama. In contrast, dating members of another group I found particularly visually attractive, I without fail (5 examples only, but enough) found them each to consider tantrums acceptable "adult" behavior and drama-creation as a prime pastime
THe only people I ever see speculating about or critisizing these couples are the non-asian women and the non-white men.
As far as I'm concerned, if the two adults are happy with one another then it's really no one elses business as to why they are together in the first place.
A Russian friend of mine married an Asian woman a year ago, and he couldn't be happier. He dated Russian women before, and was attracted to Latinas, but they were all basically crazy in some way. He met his current wife (whom I introduced him to) and he's been floating on air ever since.
for what its worth, I noticed this when I came to manhattan too
you should really ignore the submissive stereotype, its a front. a lot of asian women can be nice but dont confuse that for submission, they can be very calculating, and wild sexually. you know, kind of like any other girl.
You should watch "My Sassy Girl" a korean movie. Not submissive at all.
A lot of asian women that come to america are Christian, esp. from Korea or China. Even though christianity is a minor religion in china, minor in china is still 50 million people. Anyway, you can get a very relatable level of submission or lack thereof that any other american will give you.
I've taken two F.O.B. korean girls home before at the same time.
People stereotype because, generally speaking, stereotypes are true.
Sorry if this offends some. But stereotypes are useful and they serve a useful purpose -- they are true.
Maybe in the minds of some, but I don't even want to stereotype stereotypers (stereotypists?).
People stereotype because the random world is a scary and unpredictable place.
You, Eugene, wish your racial/cultural assumptions to be true, therefore you proclaim "they are true". It doesn't make any of it true, as much as you want it to be or say it is.
Sorry to break your brain.
How much better it is to confront your fear of women or men of other cultures/religions/socioeconomics and take each person you meet to NOT be representative of that culture, just treat every person as an individual. Your cultural assumptions are YOUR baggage, not everyone else's.
It is not about being offended. It is a clear question of right or wrong. Guess which one you are?
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