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Specifically in Brooklyn. It's hard to get a room easily when you're socially awkward. For some reason people think socially awkward people are serial killers and I always end up not getting a room until the very last minute. So how to I get past this hump? What are the best things to say/not say to seal the deal and get a room?
That's a loaded question. Some people who want roomies want someone they want to be cool with on a personal level (quasi-friends) while others just want someone who isn't a slob and who pays their fair share of rent on time and who isn't too loud.
The best roommate (In my mind) is someone who isn't around, so if you are a very active person who doesn't spend much time at home, tell them that! Tell them that you're responsible with finances and rent and such
It really depends, but in general I would NOT say:
I am a nudist
I deal drugs
My kids will be visiting me alot
As long as I stay on my medication, I am easy to get along with
I had my former landlord/roommate arrested
You don't mind if we share clothes, do you?
I am a Sadist
I am on parole
So long as you do what I say, everything should be fine
My current place has bed bugs
I just joined the KKK/Black Panthers
I see my massage clients at my home
Specifically in Brooklyn. It's hard to get a room easily when you're socially awkward. For some reason people think socially awkward people are serial killers and I always end up not getting a room until the very last minute. So how to I get past this hump? What are the best things to say/not say to seal the deal and get a room?
What is it about your interaction with people that you believe is awkward? You should think of these things as conversations, not interviews. It's a mistake to simply say what you think they want to hear. You want to live with people who are on the same wavelength as you in terms of cleanliness, overnight guests, noise, drug use, drinking, etc etc. If you talk about what your interests are, what time you get up for work, and what you do for a living -- in a way that you would talk to a friendly acquaintance then many of these topics should get covered without a specific question.
As for things *not* to say, that's hard. You could get rejected if you tell them you get up at 7:30 in the morning and go to bed at 11:30pm, because the other roommate likes to stay up all night watching loud TV. Then again, you wouldn't want to live with someone like that if you keep those hours. Try not to look at the floor, and smile from time to time. If you get in, be respectful but remember that you are paying rent and that doesn't mean you have to put up with someone who expects you to do all their chores because they were the first people there. Walk away from that garbage.
Specifically in Brooklyn. It's hard to get a room easily when you're socially awkward. For some reason people think socially awkward people are serial killers and I always end up not getting a room until the very last minute. So how to I get past this hump? What are the best things to say/not say to seal the deal and get a room?
Bro! If you're socially awkward it is best to either:
A. live with family
B. live by yourself
C. live with friends
If you are socially awkward like you claim this will turn off the majority of the roommate seekers since they will negatively stereotype you. I am socially awkward myself and i live with my cousin for the time being. Before that i lived by myself.
In many Brooklyn neighborhoods, people are picky about who they want to live with. They can be, because in these neighborhoods, 10 to 20 people will typically look at any advertised vacancy. Many of these neighborhoods attract a certain type of person, and the existing roommates will often be looking for that type of person to fill the space. All this is especially true in Williamsburg and adjacent neighborhoods.
You may find it much easier to find housing in less popular neighborhoods, such as those in Queens, the northernmost parts of Manhattan or possibly even the Bronx. Although nowadays, even those places are difficult.
Dude, my advice is for you to
A. Play it as COOL as you can, yet not to the point of being fake
B. Try to look " modern " ( Roommates want to be able to relate to you in a way )
C. Don't bring up any faults or flaws that will make you look socially awkward
GOOD LUCK!
Fill out SHeldon's questionnaire answering EVERY question.
Are you referencing Big Bang Theory?
Don't forget to agree to sign the roommate contract.
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