Moved to NYC 2 years ago and I am so bored and without friends (transplants, neighborhood) - New York City - New York - City-Data Forum

floyd777 · 02-19-2013, 10:37 PM

I moved to NYC about 2 years back and I have realized that I have less friends than when I was in Delaware. I am not very shy but am not too outgoing either. I am not white (I am east indian), quite smart and decent looking but for some reason I have never found good friends to hang out with. I have very few friends in the city and every weekend I find it a challenge to try to do something or meet new people.

I am not that interested in dating but more making friends - good friends.

This is the first time I am posting on this forum. Maybe someone can start me with some good tips?

silverbullnyc · 02-19-2013, 10:53 PM

What's wrong with the people at your job if you're employed? Also what are things that you like and into truly.

NyWriterdude · 02-19-2013, 11:15 PM

Are you young? Start out by hanging out in bars. I'm not saying do this infefinitely, but this is a great way to make friends in the beginning.

You can meet people in other places, gyms, community centers, etc. Just go out by yourself to fun places and you'll meet people and make friends (be fun and be yourself).

mathjak107 · 02-20-2013, 02:35 AM

here is a tip. most men don't have friends, We just have women we have not done YET. LOL

Chava61 · 02-20-2013, 05:15 AM

You could take a class or a course somewhere where you might be able to make friends.

skinnayyy · 02-20-2013, 07:08 AM

meetup.com find something you enjoy and go "meetup"

hershey48 · 02-20-2013, 07:19 AM

Try meetup. Check out the library where they have different types of activities going on.

skinnayyy · 02-20-2013, 08:23 AM

and theres always the premise of... how did you meet friends in deleware? Just do that again in NYC.

Bronxguyanese · 02-20-2013, 09:30 AM

Hmmm, most Transplants I know of have use coworkers as close friends or make friends with other out of towners like themselves.

aptnyc · 02-20-2013, 10:58 AM

I agree with trying something like meetup...not everyone wants to be friends with coworkers and not everyone has coworkers who are close in age and interests. For example, many offices are 95% commuters with families. They come into work and go back home.

What borough do you live in? If you live in Manhattan, it's next to impossible to meet friends in bars. If you live in the outer boroughs (minus the hipster region in Brooklyn), you can try going to a local bar. I see people come out alone all the time to our local bars, and they make friends and have a good time. It's a good way to find people in your neighborhood, but you have to be in the right neighborhood in the first place.