My Maturity (how much, dorms, unemployment)

[tht1guy]

Im ready to move out. Im living with my mom right now. we dont have the best of relationships but we take it one day at a time. But i am getting impatient id hate to leave on bad terms. but i need to start doing my own thing i want to be able to move to new york because i want to prove her wrong because she says its so expensive and whatever. but ive never been good with listening to what she says. i always end up doing the exact opposite and when she says moving to new york is too crazy it really drives me to work harder at making my dream of moving down there a reality. i remember when i was younger how much i hated living with her and how much fun my freedom would be. i would literally fantasize about how moving out would be. to wake up in the morning with the warm morning breeze cut through the blinds. i slowly wake up all alone in an empty house.no mom no screaming or yelling on why i should abide by her rules. no rules no mom no hassle just me. Is there such a life out there??? is this crazy tht i day dream about this?? can i be this happy when i move out?? i know bills will consume my earnings and my necessities. but im really looking for something better out there and my heart is telling me new york is the place

[Mr. Ryu]

unless you're rich you are going to be living with roommates. also, do you have a college degree, work experience, etc. The unemployment in this city is pretty high. Why not find an apt in Kansas City?

NYC is a tough city. It can make or break you.

[rlrl]

youre right your heart is telling you NY is the right place but a more rational part of you (ie your brain) should be telling you a more realistic city (Like KC) would be more realistic like th1guy says

[barkomatic]

How old are you? I hope you've got your high school diploma at least. NYC is a great place but as others have said its very expensive and not a good choice for your first move out of your Moms place.

What about going to a local university? You could move into the dorms, make friends, and get the education you'll need to make it in a big city. The best way to get the freedom you want is to make rational choices now. Right now all you seem to be focusing on is getting out of your Moms place--but you need to think beyond that.

[Cida]

It's hard to give you a good answer based on so little information. Here's what occurs to me:

1. You don't mention how old you are. I'm guessing you're still in your teens, which is not a good point to move alone to NYC.

2. You don't mention school, therefore I assume you haven't got a college degree. You'd be competing here with all the new college grads flooding into NYC.

3. You don't mention any work experience, therefore I'm guessing you have no skills. NYC is not a good place to come if you have no work skills. I'm guessing this also means you have no money saved. Another bad point.

4. In my experience, mothers often tend to be right most of the time.

I suggest you start by moving out and finding a place in your hometown. Re-visit the NYC idea after you've saved up several thousand dollars.

[keepit08]

The streets of NYC and many other major cities are littered with people with the same big dreams. You might want to do a little research if your looking for a place where "the warm morning breeze cut through the blinds."