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Old 05-20-2013, 09:11 PM
 
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I agree.

There isn't really an average guy cant do. Women in NYC have their defenses up all the time, the only way to penetrate through those firewalls is to one be either good looking or two look like you have some sort of money, that's just it really. If you look goofy, or look like a creep or of you look broke and don't dress right, women will walk away, or even worse if your an Asian male. If your not a social person and your introvert you are going to run into problems with woman, if you're not spiritual, you will run into problems with women. Women in NYC get hit on all the time, some time even ugly and chubby women get hit on.
This is how it is everywhere though I mean come on, men can be pretty shallow. Would you go for a girl you consider ugly and poorly dressed, introvert and creepy? I can't speak for NY women since I'm considered a transplant, but a guy with a nice place and flashy car does not seal the deal for me. I look for what I'm attracted to, personality, and a good heart. And I'm sure I'm not the only woman that thinks that way.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:51 PM
 
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yeah i live on staten island,

I'm looking for a job that will let me move to queens or brooklyn. And yes I am Asian. lol, I love how things are suppose to be worse if you an Asian guy.

BTW, those penis stereotypes are NOT true.
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Old 05-20-2013, 09:56 PM
 
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yeah i live on staten island,

I'm looking for a job that will let me move to queens or brooklyn. And yes I am Asian. lol, I love how things are suppose to be worse if you an Asian guy.

BTW, those penis stereotypes are NOT true.
From what I've heard they kind of are lol

Asian guys probably have it the worst. I see Asian women with white guys almost on a daily basis, whereas I've yet to see an Asian guy with a white woman
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Old 05-20-2013, 10:15 PM
 
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Hey if it was possible I'll whip mine out and put a ruler next to it. It's NOT true. There's what 4 billion asians? I'm sure some of them have small penis. and I'm sure some black guys have Arizona can penis, but as a whole these stereotypes are not true.

Yeah, I feel like on the totem pole of dating, I'm below the deranged serial killers on rykers island.

My first date was with a white italian woman who used to be my closest friend. You should of seen all the stares we got. It was crazy.
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Old 05-20-2013, 10:39 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, NY
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This is how it is everywhere though I mean come on, men can be pretty shallow. Would you go for a girl you consider ugly and poorly dressed, introvert and creepy? I can't speak for NY women since I'm considered a transplant, but a guy with a nice place and flashy car does not seal the deal for me. I look for what I'm attracted to, personality, and a good heart. And I'm sure I'm not the only woman that thinks that way.
I was born here and I agree completely. Everyone has a 'type' and there's nothing wrong with that. But I'm not materialistic and I don't care for those who are. I consider that a turnoff.

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yeah i live on staten island,

I'm looking for a job that will let me move to queens or brooklyn. And yes I am Asian. lol, I love how things are suppose to be worse if you an Asian guy.

BTW, those penis stereotypes are NOT true.
I'll vouch for you, lol. I've dated Taiwanese and Korean guys.
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Old 05-20-2013, 11:43 PM
 
Location: NYntarctica
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Yeah I'm not having much success with women here :/

I'm Russian, so I'm a foreigner, but you can't really tell that I'm a foreigner until I talk. I don't know if that's what chases girls away. Okay, I used to be really unattractive, but last summer I decided to make myself more presentable to women, so I improved my hygiene significantly, I started working out and decided to make myself a better person. I don't think I'm attractive because my self-esteem is nonexistent, but a lot of Latina girls say that I look attractive, so I'll take their word for it. I don't know why, but Latina girls (except for Puerto Ricans) give me a lot of attention. I mean I do like Latinas (the closest I've ever gotten to a relationship was with Hispanic girls), but my neighborhood is literally the last place to meet them. White girls many times don't even look at me though for some reason, except for other East Europeans. Asian women are like 50/50

Also, whenever I do ask a girl out, it's always the same BS over and over again; "You're ____(insert cute/funny), and I would go out with you, but _____(my parents don't let me date/I just broke up with someone and am not ready for a relationship)"

Every single time, it kind of makes me lose faith in humanity :/
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Old 05-21-2013, 12:01 AM
 
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I know a speech teacher that can help you loose your accent. He does speech for acting, Vincent Bagnell. It's in NY. by times square.

I know it's silly, but I wanted to improve my speech. I got lazy but it did help a lot in the first few months I was there.
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Old 05-21-2013, 01:47 AM
 
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What's the deal ...?
Can't imagine why women aren't attracted to a man who chooses "rising vendetta" for a screen name.
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Old 05-21-2013, 07:19 AM
 
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another thread of this nature???

There are 8.2 million people in NYC with 40 million annual tourist. If you are having problems meeting the opposite sex then there is something really wrong with you. Yes, you have to be mindful that 1/3 of the people you meet are going to hate you regardless, 1/3 are going to like you or be open to you, and 1/3 are going to be indifferent towards you (neutral).

How do you attract the opposite sex?
Being a visual candy = Your appearance, the way you dress, your haircut, etc.
Being seen as a potential and stable provider = Your career, finances, etc.
Coming off as a fun time = your personality, friends, hobbies, etc
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Old 05-21-2013, 07:25 AM
 
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You guys should join a PUA forum. This has nothing to do with NYC, it has everything to do with you learning to be more attractive.
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