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Old 07-16-2013, 02:28 PM
 
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my wife told me she experienced similar 'male attention' when she was in Rome
I believe that there is a photo of this incident!
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Old 07-16-2013, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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Sorry, I kind of brought it full circle with my edits. I tried, anyhow.

I think if I were a woman I'd probably make myself as unapproachable as possible, too. Sure, maybe every now and then a woman is approached by a guy she would like to be approached by, but what about the other 99 out of 100 times? Not worth it, I bet.
Yeah, I think you're right. But also, I think during the day, especially during work hours, most people are trying to get where they gotta go...run errands during lunchtime or something and don't have the time to be approached. I know when I'm in a hurry I just wanna go where I gotta go. I don't think most women intend to give off the "don't talk to me" vibe.
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Old 07-16-2013, 03:17 PM
 
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Dude. Don't. Just don't. Take from a woman. Don't. Not on the street, not on the train. ESPECIALLY not if they have headphones on. Seriously, women hate this s***. We get it ALL THE TIME. Any even remotely attractive woman has been approached by many hotter and mor charming guys than you, with much better game. That's what you're dealing with and why women have so many walls up in public in NYC. We've heard it ALL. If some dude who wanted to hit on me made me lift my headphones to hear his line, I'd probably scream--that is the height of rudeness. Go away and stop forcing us to acknowledge you on the street, or while trapped in a metal subway car.

If you want to meet womenm FIND AN ACTIVITY. Join a team (my soccer team has had a ton of intra-team couples). Or go to a bar.

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Go by percentages and volume.
Hit on every possible girl in the street.
Even if you are a loser and have a 1% success rate, if you hit on 1,000 girls, thats still 10 girls.
If you do this, you are: 1) An a****** who is perpetuating the huge problem of street harassment that women face and basically making us hate all male strangers; and 2) a selfish a******, because if women become even more suspicious of men, that makes it even harder for the rest of you. Don't do this.
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Old 07-16-2013, 05:13 PM
 
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Apart from potential creepiness, in NYC, most people on the street are on their way somewhere, and chances are that they're in a hurry. Try someplace where you have the opportunity of striking up a conversation first.
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Old 07-16-2013, 05:24 PM
 
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It seems like the girls I want to speak with are the ones most likely to be playing a video game on their phone while walking or pretend talking on their phone.
How do you know these women are "pretend talking" on the phone?
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Old 07-16-2013, 06:41 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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I've witnessed guys get numbers from girls who were wearing headphones before the approach. I even seen one dude tell a girl he didn't know to hang up the phone as his first sentence. He ended up getting the number and later hooking up with her that week. At the end of the day, either she's interested or she's not, so her wearing headphones or not won't really make a difference if she didn't find you attractive in the first place. When a girl likes you, chances are she won't kill you for taking 5 minutes of her time, it's that simple.
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Old 07-16-2013, 06:43 PM
 
Location: London
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Apart from potential creepiness, in NYC, most people on the street are on their way somewhere, and chances are that they're in a hurry. Try someplace where you have the opportunity of striking up a conversation first.
This.

I don't mind at all if a man approaches me respectfully (hint: "hello, how are you" is respectful. "oo damn u sexy" is not.). What I do mind is if he keeps talking and ignores that I'm trying to get away from him. Most women won't make any attempt to further the conversation unless they're into you.
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Old 07-16-2013, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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Btw...it's only harassment if the girl says No. Just sayin.
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Old 07-16-2013, 07:57 PM
 
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You answerered your own question here, bro. Now get your clothes, consistently groom, and be an Alpha.

Yes.

I wondered why so many young women on earphones/headphones and on mobile when walking and no other group was. Did a search and found this "Street Harassment". Was wondering if this pose was just to divert the sketchy and still leave room for a sincere ask.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:01 PM
 
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I don't get it. If you already have a 50% success rate, then you are rather good at this. I would not think that you would have to stop women on the street when they are walking with headphones or speaking on the phone. And also why the subway is harder than the street? I am not in my 20's anymore so I am not your target audience, but one thing I learned while living in NY is NOT TO STOP on the sidewalk for people asking me stuff. This is learned behavior from having been asked too many times for money, signatures, craziness, etc.

I just don't understand why you can't meet them in the coffee shop, bookstore, subway (if they are reading a book you can comment on) etc. All of those places would seem to be a much better bet than stopping people who are walking somewhere with headphones in.

You say you don't have friends and have to do this, but no, you really don't have to stop women who are on the phone. There are dozens of other scenarios per day that would be better. IMHO.

I had no one to compare to so didn't know. Earphones, subway can have girls I want to talk to, otherwise I am limited to those without headphones on. Subway is a little closed in for me. Stores would seem better but I find them awkward. Maybe it is better for the girl. Girls walk reading books too!

I don't stop anyone, I say something friendly. Of all the women Ive spoken to, only one at a Bus Stop got squirrely when I asked her for her number. I dropped the subject immediately.
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