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Old 07-15-2013, 09:18 PM
 
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I recently moved to the city and want to meet more women. I think the bars/clubs are hard because theyre always with their friends and I am solo. I would prefer to ask women out during the day.

In Manhattan, on the street, I see single ladies in their twenties usually either on the phone or with earphones/headphones. That says, "Don't speak to me." It seems like the girls I want to speak with are the ones most likely to be playing a video game on their phone while walking or pretend talking on their phone. I hear about this street harassment but I wonder if that precludes a handsome guy in a suit from walking up to them and asking for a legit date?

I wanted to see how NYC women feel about a respectful, cold approach on the street? Is that street harassment or is it potentially a welcome exchange?
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Old 07-16-2013, 02:09 AM
 
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I wanted to see how NYC women feel about a respectful, cold approach on the street? Is that street harassment or is it potentially a welcome exchange?
I'm sure that there's nothing NYC women would like more, than some stranger approaching them on the street and asking them for a date ...
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Old 07-16-2013, 05:24 AM
 
Location: NY,NY
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I recently moved to the city and want to meet more women. I think the bars/clubs are hard because theyre always with their friends and I am solo. I would prefer to ask women out during the day.

In Manhattan, on the street, I see single ladies in their twenties usually either on the phone or with earphones/headphones. That says, "Don't speak to me." It seems like the girls I want to speak with are the ones most likely to be playing a video game on their phone while walking or pretend talking on their phone. I hear about this street harassment but I wonder if that precludes a handsome guy in a suit from walking up to them and asking for a legit date?

I wanted to see how NYC women feel about a respectful, cold approach on the street? Is that street harassment or is it potentially a welcome exchange?
*IF*, after one look at you, on the sidewalk, they get *wet*, I would say its OK to approach.

*IF*, after one look at you, on the sidewalk, they start "pretend talking", then it is likely better to pass.

*IF*, after one look at you, on the sidewalk, they start playing a video game, while walking, I suggest you stay close and wait for this bimbo to walk into a Building!

At which point the whole street harrassment thing will break down, and you will be transformed from 'creepy stalker' to gallant gentlement with hanky wiping the blood from her forehead.... just don't lick it, no matter how much you want tooo!
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Old 07-16-2013, 05:30 AM
 
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Pick up line on street

If you're hot -> cute, still a creep, I'm busy
If you're ugly -> creep
If you got money -> you're Adonis hot or ugly
IMO we're all 7-8 once you put on right clothes and clean shave.
9/10s determined individually, for example some still think A. Jolie or Courtney Cox is a 9-10, but I think Halle Berry will beat em any day in a beauty contest.

Bars

No like you said friends, girls never travel alone, and don't look for dates there

Clubs

Same thing and usually it's a girls night out when you see em with or w/o dudes. They just paired up with the all guy crew to get the dudes in. Also, when see em dancing, its 50/50. They are just looking to have F-U-N not screw like all the dudes in the club want to do. Alternatively, they are just with their bf. No and ifs or buts. Club girls are not looking to hook up period.

You meet girls in the city by participating in social activities you enjoy doing and making more friends. That's the secret, making friends and going out more.

Sex

Strip clubs
Massage
Escort
Yes all above means pay for it and wayyyyyyyyyyy cheaper than a gf just being real

Bars
Clubs
Social activities

Regardless of what you do, gotta contribute some coin to get laid. Never meet the girl if you don't join some stupid rock climbing or rock concert. Wont meet the drunkard if you never pay the bouncer, spend couple $100 on clothes, buy 3-7 shots. Worst are the year long monthly fees like idk gym membership? Anything with a membership avoid like a plague unless you really like the activity, not the girl. Think only "free" place to meet a girls is in library, museum, or central park. Strip Clubs, massage, and escorts self explanatory and way cheaper lol
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Old 07-16-2013, 06:18 AM
 
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Go by percentages and volume.
Hit on every possible girl in the street.
Even if you are a loser and have a 1% success rate, if you hit on 1,000 girls, thats still 10 girls.
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Old 07-16-2013, 07:08 AM
 
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Go by percentages and volume.
Hit on every possible girl in the street.
Even if you are a loser and have a 1% success rate, if you hit on 1,000 girls, thats still 10 girls.
Hunh?

My number getting ratio is roughly 50% And it would be higher but I lose interest a lot of the time. I am as friendly and respectful as I know how to be with women in public. Usually we have a short but interactive chat which is never vulgar.

My question was about women with their headphones on and speaking on the phone; is it alright to get their attention if you have a sincere interest in them. Rather hoping the NYC ladies would weigh in.
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Old 07-16-2013, 07:10 AM
 
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I'm sure that there's nothing NYC women would like more, than some stranger approaching them on the street and asking them for a date ...
I don't have a choice. I have no friends here and have no choice but to strike up conversations in street or stores/shops. Subway would be good too, if I could work up the courage.
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Old 07-16-2013, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Planet Brooklyn
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I don't have a choice. I have no friends here and have no choice but to strike up conversations in street or stores/shops. Subway would be good too, if I could work up the courage.
You answerered your own question here, bro. Now get your clothes, consistently groom, and be an Alpha.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:16 AM
 
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Hunh?

My number getting ratio is roughly 50% And it would be higher but I lose interest a lot of the time. I am as friendly and respectful as I know how to be with women in public. Usually we have a short but interactive chat which is never vulgar.

My question was about women with their headphones on and speaking on the phone; is it alright to get their attention if you have a sincere interest in them. Rather hoping the NYC ladies would weigh in.
I don't get it. If you already have a 50% success rate, then you are rather good at this. I would not think that you would have to stop women on the street when they are walking with headphones or speaking on the phone. And also why the subway is harder than the street? I am not in my 20's anymore so I am not your target audience, but one thing I learned while living in NY is NOT TO STOP on the sidewalk for people asking me stuff. This is learned behavior from having been asked too many times for money, signatures, craziness, etc.

I just don't understand why you can't meet them in the coffee shop, bookstore, subway (if they are reading a book you can comment on) etc. All of those places would seem to be a much better bet than stopping people who are walking somewhere with headphones in.

You say you don't have friends and have to do this, but no, you really don't have to stop women who are on the phone. There are dozens of other scenarios per day that would be better. IMHO.
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:20 AM
 
Location: Upper East, NY
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You can't be this stupid.

Aren't people on the street going somewhere?

Go to a park and talk to someone stationary.
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