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Old 08-13-2013, 12:28 AM
 
Location: North Jersey to North TX
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Hello everyone,

I am 30 years old and currently live in Hoboken, NJ. I work in the financial district NYC. I'm over the party scene and clubbing etc. I was never really a drinker because I have almost 0 tolerance against that. I wonder where and how would be a perfect way to approach women around the city. They usually don't even make eye contact because they all seem like they're running late somewhere.

I think it would be nice to meet a nice decent girl who has similar likes. We can go walk around Manhattan and sit in the parks. Do things we haven't done previously. Hoboken is sucha party town where everyone is usually walking drunk after 9pm on a weekend. Um so back to meeting women in NYC. Any spots? Any tips? Any good way to approach them?

Any input would help

Have a nice day/night!!!

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Old 08-13-2013, 01:00 AM
 
Location: Bronx
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Not one of these again. All I have to say is be good looking, be attractive and don't be unattractive. Try walking around and playing with a ukulele, i know two guys who did this and always got numbers and lays. I have laid out an assessment on NYC women from down to earth and stuck up local women, to trendy careerist transplants women from the midwest.


There is also a thread like this already. I hope the mods can move this thread into the old thread.

How to meet women in NY?
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Old 08-13-2013, 03:23 AM
 
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My thoughts exactly.
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Old 08-13-2013, 04:51 AM
 
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Cisco_Kid - Why not approach women in your office? Also are you looking to get into a relationship or just have fun? You seem to have expectations from women but what can they expect from you in return (family, stability, etc.)?

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Old 08-13-2013, 07:15 AM
 
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Cisco_Kid - Why not approach women in your office? Also are you looking to get into a relationship or just have fun? You seem to have expectations from women but what can they expect from you in return (family, stability, etc.)?
Don't shyt where you eat!! Do not date in your office. THere are 8.2 million people in NYC surely you can find someone outside the work environment.
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Old 08-13-2013, 07:55 AM
 
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Get a dog. Women will approach you with the pretext of asking about your dog (while your out walking him). At that point, the ice is already broken, the rest is up to you. This really does work.
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Old 08-13-2013, 08:25 AM
 
Location: Bronx
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Cisco_Kid - Why not approach women in your office? Also are you looking to get into a relationship or just have fun? You seem to have expectations from women but what can they expect from you in return (family, stability, etc.)?
That's a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen, unless if he hits on her at happy hour after work! But my thoughts exactly. I think women will get scared or worried if a man talks about family and stability, she might flake. My best bet is for him to just to try and have fun. These days women don't want to hear stuff like family or stability, because one most women especially typical local NYC women make their own money and can provide for themselves. A man can flip burgers at mcdonalds all if she cares but just as long as he genuine, cute, honest, confident then its all fair game for women here. If your careerist type of guy, your going to have to go for a careerist type of women.
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Old 08-13-2013, 08:28 AM
 
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Search this question its been asked ALOT!
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Old 08-13-2013, 11:59 AM
 
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That's a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen, unless if he hits on her at happy hour after work! But my thoughts exactly. I think women will get scared or worried if a man talks about family and stability, she might flake.
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Don't shyt where you eat!! Do not date in your office. THere are 8.2 million people in NYC surely you can find someone outside the work environment.
What I've noticed is that workplace women in their late 20s/early 30s take a somewhat veiled interest in male coworkers who look decent/professional, show an inclination to start a family and have accumulated a fair amount of assets (ie, saved for a downpayment in a good neighborhood). Something to the effect of - "I'm doing house hunting in Basking Ridge and Millburn..." - that often does the trick.

I was actually not suggesting that he approach women in the office, but rather he get the women in the office to approach him. On the other hand if he carries himself as someone who just wants to play around and have fun then few at work will want to hook up unless he is a smooth talker and can project himself to be very size-endowed "down there".

But I agree generally that there are other venues to meet women without resorting to the workplace, which can lead to complications to one's career.

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Old 08-13-2013, 12:08 PM
 
Location: BK All Day
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Soul Cycle! It's a little expensive but so many people have been getting married all because they met in soul cycle. The girls are pretty fit too!
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