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I don't look at them, I don't acknowledge them and I don't even react. I act as though I'm deaf, dumb and blind. I've gotten some reactions from men where they seem angry that I'm flat-out ignoring their attempts to get my attention.
The only thing that really upsets me is when they "trick" me into acknowledging them. Like, telling me I dropped something, just to get me to acknowledge them or acting like they need directions or something and then asking me why I don't smile more.
It's annoying and I look like a total ***** walking through the streets of manhattan, because I ignore anyone and everyone, but it's the only thing I could do to gain any control over the situation. It's so rude and it makes me uncomfortable, but it happens so frequently now that I just put on my "game face" whenever i have to walk around the city.
It's annoying and I look like a total ***** walking through the streets of manhattan, because I ignore anyone and everyone, but it's the only thing I could do to gain any control over the situation. It's so rude and it makes me uncomfortable, but it happens so frequently now that I just put on my "game face" whenever i have to walk around the city.
When I lived in the DC area (I lived in the suburbs and worked downtown), it took a while for me to let my guard down and not assume the worst from strangers who talked to me (including men). People seemed friendlier. Once I moved back here, I had to stop that and the wall went right back up out of necessity.
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Being a long time New Yorker and Black woman it's can be difficult dealing with it! Attend Community Board Meeting for your area about making a better as far as the atmosphere. If you love the neighborhood stick by it.. Ignore people they'll become invisible eventually
I can only recommend changing your walking pattern, avoiding certain spots where they hangout or try walking with others.
Another thing most females don't do that makes them easy target is they don't make eye contact. Guys who harass usually very simple minded, they do it for the sport. When you look back at them and give them a stare, they might have 2nd thoughts next time. It doesn't always work but it's worth trying, you just have to get used to it as others have said you can't do anything about it.
Even if you report to the police, they would say only if they confront you and threatens you then they could do something.
I live two blocks from the closest subway. I refuse to take the back streets, because it will add an additional 10 minutes to my commute. Where is NYPD when you need them?
Being a long time New Yorker and Black woman it's can be difficult dealing with it! Attend Community Board Meeting for your area about making a better as far as the atmosphere. If you love the neighborhood stick by it.. Ignore people they'll become invisible eventually
I don't look at them, I don't acknowledge them and I don't even react. I act as though I'm deaf, dumb and blind. I've gotten some reactions from men where they seem angry that I'm flat-out ignoring their attempts to get my attention.
The only thing that really upsets me is when they "trick" me into acknowledging them. Like, telling me I dropped something, just to get me to acknowledge them or acting like they need directions or something and then asking me why I don't smile more.
It's annoying and I look like a total ***** walking through the streets of manhattan, because I ignore anyone and everyone, but it's the only thing I could do to gain any control over the situation. It's so rude and it makes me uncomfortable, but it happens so frequently now that I just put on my "game face" whenever i have to walk around the city.
I put on my "game" face too, but lately I've become irate after recently experiencing a very dangerous encounter. I was jogging with my headphones and didn't realize that one guy started jogging with me. As soon as I saw him approaching, I quickly moved, but he had already reached out and grabbed my arm. I screamed, LET GO Of MY ARM, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM ME!!!!!!!!!! and quickly ran in the opposite direction. That experience really unnerved me, because these guys are possibly capable of taking it a step further and that's why some type of intervention is needed.
I deleted that comment, because it should not matter.
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