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32014983QUOTE=Julie_inFall;32014983]I'm not interested in meeting guys from craigslist; it's very unsafe. The person could be a serial killer, stalker or rapist.[/quote]
You could meet a serial killer on the street too.
I used to think like this too. I had to get out of thinking of this way and broaden my horizons and stop being afraid. For me it's just a way to better meet people since I'm not working yet.
I met my crazy husband in the streets, I now believe I'm better equipped to recognize crazy when I see it and run. If you don't feel safe meeting a person then you don't. Always take pre-caustions before meeting, even bringing a friend who'll sit near by in a public place w/o the meetee's knowledge.
You just have to be safe.
Oh and I only suggested you LOOK on Craigslist to get an idea of the different White men and different things they like in Black women. Just skip over the freakiness.
Oh to all other CD posters before you ball me out about my other posts about wining and dining. My man doesn't have to be college educated but he does have to be employed and and goal oriented. He could drive a bus, be a auto mechanic, or anything respectable as long as it's an honest living and be intelligent. I believe I am/will be blessed to carry both of us so I'm worried if he doesn't have thousands in his bank account but I certainly don't want a man who'll bring me down.
Jad4, I can relate to you about the hood thing, I'm not hood either and don't want a guy with a hood mentality either.
I remember not too long ago an AA young man questioning why so many Black women were looking for White men? After he'd complained he said he understood they had more money and more apt to wine and dine you. He went on to say he had dreams of being a rapper and would soon be able to afford the same if not more and how he was currently in school
...getting his GED! Lol
Normally, I would say that money matters, and it does, but I think educational achievement matters significantly more - at least in regard to black women dating white men.
Normally, I would say that money matters, and it does, but I think educational achievement matters significantly more - at least in regard to black women dating white men.
No it doesn't.
I really wish you guys would stop making it seem like white men have all these "standards" when it comes to dating women of ANY race.
I hate posts like these, because it's not true.
If you're fairly decent looking, not afraid to approach or know how to flirt without being slutty (or even being slutty Lol) and make a man feel at ease within the first few minutes of conversation, then you can do what you want with him.
I can't explain it into words, but getting men of any race or age isn't rocket science or as difficult as people on the internet make it out to be.
White men are not these "classy" creatures with "standards". Many of them can't be as "choosy" as they would like. Some can, but they're either very good looking or very rich. I repeat, they're no better than any other race of men. Don't believe the hype.
Have you ever tried it? It's extremely BORING! You feel like an outsider.
Yes, I have and I feel completely fine. Not as an outsider at all.
When a man has alcohol in him, he's more relaxed and apt to reveal more about himself. Depending on what day it is or time, I "might" order one alcoholic drink to loosen the mood a bit, but if I have to go to work, then I'll get something non-alcoholic. I don't like to drink when I have something important to do the next morning.
Again, I'm not afraid of the opposite sex nor do I look at men as "creatures from out of space".
Normally, I would say that money matters, and it does, but I think educational achievement matters significantly more - at least in regard to black women dating white men.
I believe this matters to most women including Black women. I may be an exception (excluding a lot of other working class Blacks) that doesn''t mind a man who doesn't hold a degree.
The point I was trying to make as Jad2k hit on was Black women as a whole have a small pool to choose from when it comes to the Black man, it's further lessened when we look for college educated Black men, Black men who aren't/haven't been incarcerated, Black men w/o baby mommas all over the place, underemployed, gay etc.
etc. We have too many of our Black men falling into the cracks or dreaming about being the next Jay-z or Michael Jordan without putting the biggest value on education an obtaining that first.
I really wish you guys would stop making it seem like white men have all these "standards" when it comes to dating women of ANY race.
I hate posts like these, because it's not true.
If you're fairly decent looking, not afraid to approach or know how to flirt without being slutty (or even being slutty Lol) and make a man feel at ease within the first few minutes of conversation, then you can do what you want with him.
I can't explain it into words, but getting men of any race or age isn't rocket science or as difficult as people on the internet make it out to be.
White men are not these "classy" creatures with "standards". Many of them can't be as "choosy" as they would like. Some can, but they're either very good looking or very rich. I repeat, they're no better than any other race of men. Don't believe the hype.
What makes you think that I was referring to white men and not black women? Black women are simply the least likely to date outside their race. Having said that, the reason I think educational achievement matters more than income is simply because of the numbers. Black women have higher educational achievement levels than black men and if they want someone with a comparable education level they have no choice but to either a) share a black man, or b) date outside their race.
Perhaps I'm completely wrong and it really is just about money though.
What makes you think that I was referring to white men and not black women? Black women are simply the least likely to date outside their race. Having said that, the reason I think educational achievement matters more than income is simply because of the numbers. Black women have higher educational achievement levels than black men and if they want someone with a comparable education level they have no choice but to either a) share a black man, or b) date outside their race.
Perhaps I'm completely wrong and it really is just about money though.
It's about being compatible not about the money. You're painting all Black women as opportunist and that's not the case.
Wish I could stick around longer for this discussion but I gotta go. See y'all on the next go 'round.
Sometimes you'll find a few gems among the freaks who are looking for serious relationship and not just a roll in the hay. I've seen a few Christian men looking for serious relationships that would lead to marriage.
I believe this matters to most women including Black women. I may be an exception (excluding a lot of other working class Blacks) that doesn''t mind a man who doesn't hold a degree.
The point I was trying to make as Jad2k hit on was Black women as a whole have a small pool to choose from when it comes to the Black man, it's further lessened when we look for college educated Black men, Black men who aren't/haven't been incarcerated, Black men w/o baby mommas all over the place, underemployed, gay etc.
etc. We have too many of our Black men falling into the cracks or dreaming about being the next Jay-z or Michael Jordan without putting the biggest value on education an obtaining that first.
Yes, that was kind of my point. Education matters to most women, but more black women graduate than black men. Normally, the education levels are reversed.
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