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Old 10-04-2015, 08:42 PM
Location: Gods country
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Originally Posted by allnaturalkiki View Post
I have a new neighbor some transplant from Minnesota. He leaves his keys in his apt door all day. I have to knock on his door at least 3 times a week to tell him his keys are in the door (house, car, d). He gets locked out constantly and rings my bell yesterday at 2 AM IN THE MORNING. I think he was drunk but he also knocked on my bedroom window. He lets people in the building even though I constantly remind him there are shelters in the area and not to believe their b.s excuses. He comes to my door and ask me if i have things like flour or milk like wtf. He brought his whole family to my apartment to meet me and they literally invited themselves in (stayed for a hr). I don't even know if he works, I got the vibe his family is rich when I met them. I was nice to him the first day (gave him some food) because I kind of felt bad he was 2k for his apt (we all pay 400 in maintenance), but i made a huge mistake. I don't want to make a big deal because I'm in the process of looking for somewhere to move. But how can I nicely tell him to F off without seeming like a rude person.
See above...that was your first mistake...
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Old 10-04-2015, 09:41 PM
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Originally Posted by allnaturalkiki View Post
I will complain to the board. I am close with most of my neighbors in some way since they are my grandfathers friends. I give them food, they will bring me things as well.They help me if needed and I them. I know everyone in my building. Many of them don't talk to him because they see him as the gentrifier coming to take over. Im not a true harlemnite so I'm not offended.
I'm not letting him in anymore he can bother the super. I wouldn't have been to pissed off with ringing my bell if he didn't do it at 2 am and then proceed to tap on my window. I personally have gotten locked out a few times because our building has this strange double lock system if you don't get the right timing you can be kind of screwed (they need to fix that). However, we have a super and everyone bothers him. He also can hear me open my door I guess and comes out when I take out the trash or do laundry. I will just be extra quiet.

Look, you cannot have it both ways. On one hand you are the "welcome wagon/Mr. or Miss. Helpful" of the building, but on the other you don't want to be bothered and or only for certain people. Either make things clear who you will or will not bother with or stop offering to help every "stray* you come into contact with in that building.

Again the new tenant is a grown assed man, he'll sort out living in the City and that building soon enough on his own. If not he'll be on the first thing smoking back to wherever he came from. Either way your constant self initiated bothering with him just furthers the idea you care and want to help. Seriously, just stop.
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Old 10-05-2015, 12:06 PM
Location: Brooklyn New York
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do not tell him about the keys left in his door, that his problem if he is too stupid.

have the owner of the building send him a letter regarding just ringing the buzzer to let people in.

tell him, under no circumsatnces is he to ring your bell when he gets locked out or what ever the reason is, and not to be knocking on your door to borrow sugar.

then dont bother with him. solution is simple.
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Old 10-05-2015, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted by SeventhFloor View Post
Just stop talking to him.
A nice big orange sign on the door: DO NOT DISTURB UNLESS BUILDING IS ON FIRE
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Old 01-06-2016, 04:05 PM
Location: Yucaipa, California
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Its a damn shame when one neighbor has to ruin it for the rest of the people. Its always the new ones. I have rude neighbors as well & now its starting to get worse. I may end up moving as well.
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