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Old 07-01-2018, 05:52 PM
 
Location: southern california
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You need to move out now -be glad you got off cheap -you don’t even know what a divorce lawyer looks like

 
Old 07-01-2018, 06:03 PM
 
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So because your friend has been in a bad situation, this man should RISK his life sleeping out on the streets?

Just because a woman CAN make false allegations of abuse does not mean a man should not stand up to her or reason with her.

Some of the posters here sound like they have major issues with men or whatever.

Some time ago, I was renting a room from a lady (not my lover) and I lost my job. It took unemployment a few weeks to kick until and for me to get the additional money to leave. I had no intention of leave. I was behind on the rent. The lady because I hadn't paid that rent wanted me to leave, but I refused per NYC law until I got the money to pay the rent I owed and found another place.

I was within my legal rights, one cannot make someone leave an apartment without an eviction, if they have been there for more than 30 days.

Unless you think she is going to burn the house down with you in it (a criminal act mind you) there is no reason to get out the same day.

If she is Bi-Polar........he cannot reason with her..........better to get out, and the sooner the better.....she can bring charges of Domestic Abuse against him........and try fighting that..........
 
Old 07-01-2018, 06:28 PM
 
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I think you should sincerely apologize for whatever you did to this lady and let her know you need 30 days, and give her 30 days in advance for rent and move out in 30 days. Talk to her in person and write out a contract if she is willing to let you stay for an additional 30 days with the date that you promise to vacate her premises.

Do not be passive aggressive and communicate through emails. Let her know in person that you are in dire straits.

Your moving in was not technically on the books, so she may have an advantage over you. If she is not in agreement, you need to move out before she changes the locks and calls the police. If you need further shelter, call 311 and head to the shelter and lock up your items in storage facility.
Do you know all the facts? Maybe he is in the wrong, but how would you know that? Or do you believe women can do no wrong? I think youíre naive about how evil and unpredictable women can be, especially when law enforcement refuses to believe they can do wrong.
 
Old 07-01-2018, 06:40 PM
 
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I was in a similar situation once. Unfortunately, you have rights. I decided to let the sob live rent free for two month. Thankfully, his broke pathetic butt left. I was nice. Most woman are not like me. If you can not pay for a hotel, how will you pay for an apartment? You can get a room. You probably moved in because of your finances. She is disappointed. I guess that is her fault for believing in the fantasy. Hopefully, she is not spiteful. Living with someone who HATES you is unsafe.
I too suspect that the disagreement was at least partly about finances.
 
Old 07-01-2018, 09:40 PM
 
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someone donate OP some viagra
 
Old 07-02-2018, 02:24 AM
 
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If she is Bi-Polar........he cannot reason with her..........better to get out, and the sooner the better.....she can bring charges of Domestic Abuse against him........and try fighting that..........
Proof of that? For all you know they worked it out and they are back together? Or maybe she calmed down and give him a monthís notice. Or not. Too many of you are projecting your own issues and fears into the situation.
 
Old 07-02-2018, 04:38 AM
 
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Proof of that? For all you know they worked it out and they are back together? Or maybe she calmed down and give him a monthís notice. Or not. Too many of you are projecting your own issues and fears into the situation.
You all saying otherwise are in la la world. And risking this man and woman safety. We know nothing about their situation but if someone is telling you to leave out their home immediately and not being reasonable about it in the first place, there are issues we donít know about. People snap, that is a possibility. In my opinion, itís not worth it to take that risk. You are sleeping, eating, living in the same close quarters as someone who despises you. Fights and arguments can break out daily.

We just donít know so getting out as soon as possible is his best bet to walk out the situation with little damage
 
Old 07-02-2018, 05:24 AM
 
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OP respond.

It's been 48 hours.

Are you in jail???
 
Old 07-02-2018, 06:07 AM
 
Location: Manhattan
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Assuming you are in New York City and you are NOT on the lease:\


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Off-the-record roommates

This issue can become much more acrimonious if your roommate is not a tenant of record (i.e., an inhabitant who has not signed a lease agreement). In essence, this person has no legal duty or obligation to the property, its owner, or its lessee (you), so state landlord-tenant laws do not apply. Accordingly, it may be time to seek an alternative legal remedy. However — and this is key — you cannot physically force a roommate out the door by pushing them or throwing belongings on the sidewalk.
Most states have enacted a more civilized approach that provides the unwanted guest the right to notice and due process. In many states, a roommate must first be put on notice that he or she is no longer welcome. To accomplish this, a simple one-page statement declaring that the roommate arrangement has ended should suffice. Further, provide the roommate with a deadline for leaving, which usually must be at least 15-30 days from the date of the notice. Lastly, as much as you might like to avoid actual interaction, be sure the roommate actually receives the document.
See you in court!

Hopefully, the roommate will take a hint and exit gracefully. If this does not happen, however, it will be necessary to file a petition for eviction in your local court, which is likely the same court that handles formal landlord-tenant matters. By allowing the roommate to remain on the property sans lease, you actually created a month-to-month oral tenancy agreement, which must be undone using proper legal channels

Tell her, in Brit-com terms, to GET STUFFED. It will take her a while, usually measured in month, to get rid of you. It will not be pleasant dealing with this succubus, but you will have time to move out in a sensible time frame, not on her insane terms.
 
Old 07-02-2018, 09:51 PM
 
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Omg! I keep coming to this thread to see what the OP has been up to. No word from him so far. I am actually with the people who advise you to leave now. For various reasons it is better to leave. Can you try an airbnb for a couple of weeks until you find a place?
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