What is the Prospect of An Older Woman Making New Friends in NYC? (apartments)
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Just wondering what you think the odds are of making new friends in NYC.
Because there is so much to do, and lots of possibilities re: Meetups and other groups - along with the fact that it is apparently not weird for people to dine alone or hang out in a coffee shop alone (or whatever) - it seems like it would be possible to make new friends in the city.
What is your experience or perspective?
Is it considered okay to just talk to people wherever, or no?
People who are engaging, outgoing and not afraid to invite people to do things will make friends in NY. But I doubt that 'talking to people wherever' is going to be the start of a friendship. Usually it happens over a shared bond, common interest, or even same building or same gym or yoga studio.
I don't think just randomly talking to people in, say, Central Park, or on the subway is going to gain you new friends. But I guess you never know. When I was studying Spanish, I met a Spanish speaker on the subway who was in English school and we became language partners and met up to study multiple times over the period of a few months.
People who are engaging, outgoing and not afraid to invite people to do things will make friends in NY. But I doubt that 'talking to people wherever' is going to be the start of a friendship. Usually it happens over a shared bond, common interest, or even same building or same gym or yoga studio.
I don't think just randomly talking to people in, say, Central Park, or on the subway is going to gain you new friends. But I guess you never know. When I was studying Spanish, I met a Spanish speaker on the subway who was in English school and we became language partners and met up to study multiple times over the period of a few months.
Agreed with this common, specifically with the part about shared bond, common interest, or same building and gym.
You'll have no trouble at all if you have any interests. Before I left NYC, I made a move from one end of the city to the other (read: 2 hours on public transportation) and it felt like the dark side of the moon after many years in the same place. I checked MeetUp and even in the burbs, there were groups reachable by bus that met my interests. I'm still in touch with some of those newer friends now that I'm in the boonies.
As far as chatting to strangers, it's helpful before you make real friends to know that you can interact with so many people on a superficial level just by going to the store and back. You'd also be surprised what a homey feeling your immediate area can have once you know a few local people to say hi to in the store and library, etc.
Just wondering what you think the odds are of making new friends in NYC.
Because there is so much to do, and lots of possibilities re: Meetups and other groups - along with the fact that it is apparently not weird for people to dine alone or hang out in a coffee shop alone (or whatever) - it seems like it would be possible to make new friends in the city.
What is your experience or perspective?
Is it considered okay to just talk to people wherever, or no?
Chances of making friends in the city are greater if you reside on a street filled with apartments
as compared to single family homes. It's mathematics. Of course your personality is the main ingredient.
Take a class or two or three. Get involved in your local temple/church/synagogue. Theater groups. Get a library card. There are TONS of things to do at the local libraries. I took classes at the JCC and have made some terrific new friends that I now socialize with outside of that class. Also took a bridge class and made friends, one of whom will be hiring me for part time work. Volunteer in places/areas that you're interested in.
You'll be fine .
PS I eat out alone all the time. Not weird.
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