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Old Yesterday, 02:47 PM
 
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This makes no sense to me - yes, you can be distracted, but as you leave the car you see actual children in the back seat - and then as the day begins, you think about your children numerous times. This is just inconceivable to me and I agree with the poster that said that the only way this could happen is if the person is intoxicated or mentally ill. A healthy adult would not be able to ignore the fact that they put children in a car in the first place and then as they were exiting the car, just left them there. That is not an accident.
Well, obviously he didn't see "actual children" in the back seat this time or he would have known they were there, and that may be because of the rear-facing car seats, I don't know. But I have put things in the back seat that I wanted to drop off or take with me and then forgot about them and didn't see them when I got out. You don't always look in the back seat of the car when you get out, especially if your mind is already ahead to the next thing you have to do. That's a big part of this phenomenon, I think. We are not always "present" in our minds.

And yes, most people do think of their children during the day, but if you think you dropped them off at daycare, you're thinking of them as being THERE. If you remember from the Fatal Distraction article, Lyn Balfour thought she actually remembered having a conversation with her babysitter that morning about her son being up all night because of a cold, when in reality, the conversation had only taken place in her head, because she'd never dropped him off. She only realized it when she heard the multiple voicemails from her babysitter asking why she hadn't dropped him off, and then it was too late.

You must also remember the other mother who said she parked her car and got out of it and was about to walk away when out of the corner of her eye she saw a small movement, and turned her head--the baby had moved its hand just enough that she saw it, and then she was horrified to realize she'd forgotten to drop her off at daycare. In that case, tragedy was averted.

Unfortunately, this has happened way too frequently that we know that the "intoxicated or mentally ill" perception simply isn't true most of the time. But, they do have to investigate these things to identify the accidents from the truly negligent.
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Old Today, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn New York
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there was just a news thing the other night where the little girl was wandering in gravesend, and 2 sanitation workers discovered her, asked if she was lost, she said she was.


seems the bus driver and matron (see below link) did not check the bus thoroughly and signed off on it, but point Im trying to make was the girl was supposed to go to the day care, and Like I had stated and another poster ststed, didnt the daycare call to find out where the babies were.


well this question was asked by the newsreporter and the daycare said they will call if is is 2 days or more.


i dont know how most of you all feel, but to me, if a child is supposed to be in daycare and is not there, my logic and senses tell me they should take attendance everyday and if a child is supposed to be there and isnt, someone should make a phone call to find out why or where the expected child is.


this whole thing is disturbing




https://newyork.cbslocal.com/2019/08...tron-arrested/
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Old Today, 11:12 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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there was just a news thing the other night where the little girl was wandering in gravesend, and 2 sanitation workers discovered her, asked if she was lost, she said she was.


seems the bus driver and matron (see below link) did not check the bus thoroughly and signed off on it, but point Im trying to make was the girl was supposed to go to the day care, and Like I had stated and another poster ststed, didnt the daycare call to find out where the babies were.


well this question was asked by the newsreporter and the daycare said they will call if is is 2 days or more.


i dont know how most of you all feel, but to me, if a child is supposed to be in daycare and is not there, my logic and senses tell me they should take attendance everyday and if a child is supposed to be there and isnt, someone should make a phone call to find out why or where the expected child is.


this whole thing is disturbing




https://newyork.cbslocal.com/2019/08...tron-arrested/
^I guess it depends upon the quality of the daycare facility. I never had to use one because my mother was my "daycare" for my daughter. It is something that should probably be taken into consideration when choosing a daycare--will they call and check if the child is not in attendance/require that the parent calls if the child is not coming?--not just for if one forgets to drop off their kid, but if anything else happened, too.
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