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Old 10-04-2019, 08:41 PM
 
Location: New York, NY
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I rode the subway today during the morning rush. I got on and it was packed. After a stop a girl sitting between two thick ladies got up to leave. I was standing right over the seat and was gonna stay standing, but no one took the seat. There was enough room for my skinny butt, so I sat down.

The thick chick to my right immediately says “Really!”. I say I’m sorry and she then says “No you’re not!” and kept egging me on. I just said “Have a nice weekend”. She was begging for me to say something offensive so she could go off and play the pity card.

If you are thick and sit on the subway, don’t get pissed if someone sits next to you. It’s not us making it uncomfortable.

Have any of you experienced this lately?

Thanks.
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Old 10-04-2019, 09:01 PM
 
Location: New York, NY
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P.S. this was the older A train, where each seat is defined. Not a bench.
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Old 10-04-2019, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Confines of the 101 Precinct
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Your apartment appreciated very well, dont let this bother you
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Old 10-04-2019, 11:15 PM
 
Location: Harlem, NY
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u did the right thing... some people are just looking for it

don’t give em the reaction they expect... let em go batsh**
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Old 10-05-2019, 05:29 AM
 
Location: DMV Area/NYC/Honolulu
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I haven't dealt with that specifically, but whenever I'm sitting on the bus in a two-seat row and a large person comes on (I tend to sit at the window seat), I make sure that I move to the edge of my seat so that the overweight individual cannot encroach onto my seat space and leave me with little room. The seat is more than enough room for me, but if I don't do what I do, I have found that the overweight person will take over part of my seat and press my body up against the wall/window. I've had such people get upset with me as I wasn't giving them enough room
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Old 10-05-2019, 06:34 AM
 
Location: In the heights
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Why don't you all just enjoy the physical contact?
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Old 10-05-2019, 06:40 AM
 
Location: New York
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May the universe bless you all with perfect genetics so that none of you is overweight ever.

In defined seats, it definitely is offensive when someone taking up more than a seat has an attitude when you want to sit down. However, if they don't give you an attitude, treating them like they are some sort of leper is simply wrong.

I don't like the word obesity because being overweight and being obese are two different things. However it is the term used in discussions. Obesity, is one of the last prejudices out there, where it's OK to be derogatory, and treat people like its a personal failing on their part. The reality is; with most overweight people I know, they EAT better than most skinny people. Many of them also work out longer and harder than most skinny people. While there can be some health effects with excessive weight, often larger people are as healthy, or more healthy than a skinny person. What is not factored is DNA, age and gender.

Do you know most scientific research on fitness and nutrition is based on some overweight guy in their 30's trying to lose weight before a surgery? The other studies are based on male athletes in their 20s. So what does that mean. It's based on a very specific target; it's based on a short testing period; it's based on the male gender. It's based on youthful bodies. None of it has any accountability for other people not in those target groups, yet all the advice is supposed to be universally applicable to all.

Women in contrast are not just small versions of men. They have something called a menstrual cycle which regulates many hormones, not just the sex hormones. Their hormones fluctuate not only day day to day, but over time and decades. These hormones effect everything about their systems; their brain, their bodies, their moods. So why would things that work on 20 year old male athletes be effective on a 40 year old woman? Men have some of this issue as well, it is just not in the extreme.

So the reality about both fitness and nutrition is that most of it is junk science, limited data and outright snake oil. So the idea, that its some sort of personal failing is just a way to dump on people. And will-power is subjective. If a person who has had will-power for lengthy periods of time and saw no results, or diminishing results, is it really a personal failing that they finally say, "enough." No one keeps at something that is not proven successful. That would be masochism. There is a reason people are shaped the same way as their parents: DNA. You can fight it, and maybe win the battle for years, decades, but eventually, it does catch up.

For the record, I think I am overweight, because I don't look like I did when I was 30. I have also been on a diet for 35 years. Talk about will-power. Most people tell me that I look great. I disagree. That is a subject of another topic; cultural brainwashing.

https://www.1843magazine.com/feature...of-the-calorie

https://www.washingtonpost.com/natio...7a3_story.html

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/...sity-is-wrong/

https://qz.com/550527/obesity-parado...r-your-health/
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Old 10-05-2019, 06:51 AM
 
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Op, your narrative is funny despite the hostile squeezing situation you were caught in...

I once was sandwiched by two “thick” ladies on a jerky 7 train, which was actually a surprisingly pleasant experience because of the cushy soft squeezes from left and right all the way without any aggression or aggravation among us.

You got to make the best out of the limited space or resources you can have in nyc and learn to live a happy life...
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Old 10-05-2019, 07:47 AM
 
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You're confusing thick with morbidly disgusting obese fat slobs.
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Old 10-05-2019, 12:30 PM
 
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Another reason not to take a job with long commute...
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