Dating experiences/efficiencies for transplants in NYC

[Sha83]

Originally Posted by wheregirl

Hello,

I am considering the possibility of moving to either NYC or some other place. The pro for NYC is that it seems the most efficient place to meet a lot of people because of the walkability and high density. I am a single girl and dating/relationship is a high priority.

But, I wonder, for the transplants NYC's potential may not materialize as I have heard lots of stories of people who lived in NYC for years without meeting the One, and then they traveled or moved away and immediately they met their Love.

So I am just wondering: is the large number of people in NYC useful at all, if all you do is to talk to/meet a lot of people without forming deep loving bonds?

There seems to be a different mentality in terms of the native NYCers, they do form serious relationships, as they are living in the home town they grew up in and they are more inclined to look for love rather than games in NYC.

Is it possible that the transplants tend to look at NYC as a big candy store for relationship possibilities and thus have a harder time to form serious relationships?

Also, is it worse for women in NYC, since some people say that men are both not so good-looking and tend to be players in NYC? I don't care and don't need their wallets.

Thanks for your inputs!

Sorry to say, but the reason most transplants don't do well in the romance dept. is that most are pretentious and come here with this attitude like they are far above everyone, taht they are somehow unique and more creative, talented, smarter (insert superlative here), etc. The fact of the matter is that is seems as though most of these folks were outcasts where they came from and their lack of social skills does not bode well for them once they come here.

[Sha83]

Originally Posted by dixiecupdrinking

It's just a place like any other. There are people of all stripes here.. single, married, divorced, ugly, attractive, rich, poor, liberal, conservative. It seems to me that moving anywhere primarily because you expect there to be better dating options is a dead-end proposition.

Yup, yup. Desperation can be smelled a mile away.

[Sha83]

Originally Posted by Rudbeckia

Okay let me preface this by saying I am not single, and I have never lived in NYC as a single person but.....

I think is would be a great place to be single. My friends all have a blast. There is an endless supply of things to do, places to go, people to meet. I guess it might depend on your age, but if you are still young, like below 35 maybe, I think NYC would be a great place to be single.

not saying you are certain to find your mate, but you are not certain whereever you live and at least looking in NYC would be fun

NYC is a HORRIBLE place to be young and single. People here (mostly transplants now) are totally pretentious and unfriendly. The only friendly people around here are natives and immigrants and even they obviously all aren't. I have not met anyone in over three years. I find young transplants to be interested in the wrong things, namely money and status, everything thing is for appearances so that everyone else can see how "successful" that person is, and they create these junior high school-like cliques.