How to meet people in NYC??? (Union: income, shops, food)

[Moderate Guy]

Originally Posted by terribleChild

p.s. - i like meeting girls in dance clubs but i get intimidated really easily. because my dance moves are literally obscene =/ ladies, if u see us not so creative guys on the dance floor, but otherwise somewhat attractive, please give us a chance. and i'm really begging you gals here. some of us are just born with less groove.

Your problem, my friend, is indeed a minor one. You claim to be an attractive fella with a little less groove.

How about being an unattractive fella walking across from one end of the dance floor to the other ask the fair lady there for a dance - only to be turned down?

My friend, the walk back can be a long, grueling, lonely one.

[terribleChild]

Originally Posted by Miles

Your problem, my friend, is indeed a minor one. You claim to be an attractive fella with a little less groove.

How about being an unattractive fella walking across from one end of the dance floor to the other ask the fair lady there for a dance - only to be turned down?

My friend, the walk back can be a long, grueling, lonely one.

that's why when a pretty lady shows you the return route, you turn the corner and head for the restroom. wash up and come out a new man (or hope to be). Or get yourself a beer and relax for as long as you need.

[cazattack]

Theres nothing wrong with having less groove, thats why you ask the pretty lady you want to dance with to show you a few things

[Moderate Guy]

Originally Posted by cazattack

Theres nothing wrong with having less groove, thats why you ask the pretty lady you want to dance with to show you a few things

Thanks for your kind words, dear lady, but last time I did that she showed me the door and as I left, head hanging low, all I could hear were the sounds of guffaws and derision behind me. Yeah, can be a lonely city.

[znycgirl]

Where I have met people in NYC:

1. School/classes. This includes teaching/volunteering (which can make you money & make you feel good about yourself). College/grad school is, of course, the very best place.

2. Libraries. OK. I'm kind-of a dork....but this is a good place to strike up a conversation with someone. It is hit or miss: you may have to go a few times.

3. Coffee shops. Many people sit & zone out here, but if you keep a smile on your face and are "open"...it can work...again hit or miss.

4. Friendly introductions. This is when one of your friends at work is going to a house party. The success depends on the type of person you are working with. It can be wildly successful...most of my friends have met their sig others this way.

5. Improv shows. People are friendlier here. Go with someone of the same sex that you know.

Good luck.

[Moderate Guy]

Originally Posted by terribleChild

that's why when a pretty lady shows you the return route, you turn the corner and head for the restroom. wash up and come out a new man (or hope to be). Or get yourself a beer and relax for as long as you need.

I went that route already, terriblechild. My overtures to join me for a dance were so oft declined that the washroom attendant thought I had a stomach virus and would have a bottle of pepto ready for me as I headed there after each rejection by the lovely damsels. And I consumed so many beers that I did end the evening with acidity and nausea.

Guess there's no hope for some of us, but the OP need not feel that she too has to meet the same fate. NYC can indeed be a pleasant place to meet people.

[znycgirl]

Originally Posted by Miles

I went that route already, terriblechild. My overtures to join me for a dance were so oft declined that the washroom attendant thought I had a stomach virus and would have a bottle of pepto ready for me as I headed there after each rejection by the lovely damsels. And I consumed so many beers that I did end the evening with acidity and nausea.

Guess there's no hope for some of us, but the OP need not feel that she too has to meet the same fate. NYC can indeed be a pleasant place to meet people.

Try, and try again.

For every one person that rejects...there is another waiting to be asked. It just takes some talent to find out who is who. And a girl ALWAYS takes a guy who is interested in her as a complement...so there is no harm.

As I told one of my closest friends on the day she met her husband: "You are not going to have someone ring your doorbell...you have to get out there...for better or for worse"

[Moderate Guy]

Originally Posted by znycgirl

Try, and try again.

And a girl ALWAYS takes a guy who is interested in her as a complement

I've offered so many compliments that I'd give Dale Carnegie a run for his money. But thanks, anyway.

[Henna]

Originally Posted by znycgirl

Try, and try again.

For every one person that rejects...there is another waiting to be asked. It just takes some talent to find out who is who. And a girl ALWAYS takes a guy who is interested in her as a complement...so there is no harm.

As I told one of my closest friends on the day she met her husband: "You are not going to have someone ring your doorbell...you have to get out there...for better or for worse"

It's funny but I actually know a happy married couple (married for at least 10 years) and they DID meet when he rang her doorbell. It was in a small midwest town; he was running for a position in the town government and doing door to door campaigning and ended up ringing her doorbell.

But I would certainly not suggest that as an approach- the only people who ring my bell are the ones claiming to be from an energy company and want to see my last bill so they can persuade me to switch to their energy provider, and the Jehovahs Witnesses wanting me to make a different kind of conversion.

[KRISTINsf]

First off Caza, I would like to give huge props to you. You just got dumped by BF and you're not sitting home depressed and brooding and perhaps entertaining jumping off the Brooklyn Bridge. Quite the contrary, you're a fighter, a doer. You won't let life deal you a **** hand and accept it. With this kind of spirit and outlook on life I guarantee you won't be in the penalty box for long no matter which venue you take to meet and make friends.

Ok since you work in Midtown, there's a Starbucks right off there on 34th st. There's all kinds of action there as it is filled with young people and model types and agent types. I think it's because of proximity to Herald Sq there's mucho agencies and models around that area. I was approached no less than three times just enjoying a nonfat, soy latte.

Also the area around Penn station there's the Barnes and Noble bookstore with a cafe on the 2nd floor. It's always crowded and tons of guys and gals there having to share tables because of the scarcity when it gets crowded. I get hit on every time I go there.

Or you can go downstairs at Penn Station. There's a lot of eateries and pizza shops, Starbucks. Lots of young people there with the same idea.

Oh don't forget museums. There are some nice museums here in the city and if you just stroll through and appreciate the art, it won't be long before some admirer appreciates you!

Good luck and hope these tips help. Since you don't have any pals yet everything I've mentioned above can be done all by your lonesome. Of course always keep your creepdar on just in case.