Re: Bay Ridge transit ... I posted some info/opinion a few days ago, at:
http://www.city-data.com/forum/new-y...ml#post8213507
As noted there - since Bay Ridge has only one train (the R), transit can be a problem _if_
(a) your life is heavily Manhattan- or Upper-Manhattan-centric (not just a M-F roundtrip to Lowest Manhattan), or
(b) you must often go to Queens or LI, or do non-local shopping, and don't have a car.
The neighborhood is Brooklyn semi-suburban, with the pluses and minuses of, say, a smaller LI town: family-friendly, neighborhoody-feeling, but with a few transit and convenience issues.
-- The better part tends to be in the 70s-90s, from Shore Road east to Ridge Blvd or Third Ave., though it can extend to Fourth/Fifth Aves. in some spots.
-- It can get kind of seedy in parts of the 60s, and on some sidestreets throughout. Go with your gut, and make sure that you're near an R-train station or bus/express-bus stop - whichever works for you.
-- It's pretty safe, though (since it's still NYC) there are occasional spates of burglaries and car break-ins.
-- It has Owls Head Park, lots of restaurants and small stores, and a shopping strip, with Century 21 and the Gap, on 86th St. But you'll go outside the neighborhood for major housewares/hardware, electronics, books ... and it helps to have a car (and a reliable parking spot!!).
-- There's an active restaurant/bar scene, seasonal events - Easter and Halloween misc., summer park concerts, some street fairs - but only one shabby-ish movie theatre, and no "arts," theatre, or music thing going on (if that's what you're into).
And as with any neighborhood, you'll want to roam around, get a feel for it, and test-drive the commute to Manhattan.