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Old 11-14-2009, 10:23 PM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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I have to agree with you on the "meeting people". That is one of the biggest myths about nyc. Ny'ers are some of the friendliest and outgoing people in the country. How anyone can be lonely in nyc is beyond me? And like you also pointed out, the sunbelt cities have a very disconnected feeling to them. I think the car culture has a lot to do with that also.
Totally agree. I didn't realize that Southern Hospitality extended that far North. As a tourist there twice the past year, I never found so many helpful, friendly people. Get lost while there? Not for long!
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Old 11-15-2009, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Confines of the 101 Precinct
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i never understood the meeting people either....sometimes i go to the bar by myself and meet people so easy
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Old 11-15-2009, 02:16 PM
 
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i never understood the meeting people either....sometimes i go to the bar by myself and meet people so easy
I'd go as far as to say, it's hard to keep to yourself in nyc, especially in the bars. This is probably what makes nyc so exciting. If not for this reason, I'd probably hate nyc with a passion. And for this reason, is why I dislike Chicago. The midwest people are very closed off and hard to meet. The neighborbors don't even say hello there. Chicago is the big city that noboby cares if you exist, not nyc.
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Old 01-11-2010, 10:07 PM
 
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I was never a very stressed person. And I can honestly say the only reason I am so stressed living in NYC is because I got screwed over by my ex gf and stuck with a ridiculous ($2,800) a month apt in the east village, AND the worst part is I have an empty extra room! SO stressful to even think about how much money I am just wasting on this stupid apt, and how hard I have to work to make that money that I am going to just waste, terrible terrible. Dont make the same mistake I did. Living in NYC is great, and honestly besides my unfortunate situation with my apt I dont feel stressed here at all. Yeah its crowded in certain areas and sometimes the grocery store is to small for comfort, but you get use to it, and after a while kinda actually love it. You can be yourself and Mod cut.

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Old 01-11-2010, 10:15 PM
 
Location: New York City via Austin via Chicago
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I was never a very stressed person. And I can honestly say the only reason I am so stressed living in NYC is because I got screwed over by my ex gf and stuck with a ridiculous ($2,800) a month apt in the east village, AND the worst part is I have an empty extra room! SO stressful to even think about how much money I am just wasting on this stupid apt, and how hard I have to work to make that money that I am going to just waste, terrible terrible. Dont make the same mistake I did. Living in NYC is great, and honestly besides my unfortunate situation with my apt I dont feel stressed here at all. Yeah its crowded in certain areas and sometimes the grocery store is to small for comfort, but you get use to it, and after a while kinda actually love it. You can be yourself Mod cut.
That sucks man, sorry to hear that. You should do craigslist or roommates.com and find a roommate. You can meet and screen them before making a decision. Of course its not full proof that you'll meet a cool roommate but you having someone pay half the rent will relieve a lot of your stress. Also, its a potential person to hang out with.
Good Luck!

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Old 01-12-2010, 10:03 AM
 
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To whoever said that the subways were difficult to navigate: A month ago I visited for the first time since I was a young kid and had never had any experience being in a huge city using subway systems, but I can say that after only being there for a week I could EASILY get around to where I needed to go. There are maps all over the place, on the subway cars and in the subways themselves. With a little common sense it's not really that difficult.

Living anywhere can be stressful, but I will say as a visitor I was not stressed in the least bit. I understand it might be different if I was working long hours trying to afford basic necessities, but at the same time you don't HAVE to power walk every where you go. You don't HAVE to go in an all out sprint to try and catch a subway car (unless you don't manage your time well). Learn some patience and you won't mind waiting 5 minutes for the next train. Slow down a bit and enjoy your walk through the streets instead of straining your legs trying to walk as fast as you possibly can without actually running.

It's all up to you. Mod cut Take a deep breath, relax, and make your mind an oasis on peace and calm. It does no good to be angry and stressed. My favorite moment from being in the city was riding a subway car where these two incredibly happy guys were playing bob marley tunes (one guy on guitar, one guy on congas) and before he played,the drummer was wishing everybody a good night. When no one responded he repeated again "Goodnight New York". One person said good night, and then another, and the guy says "the human beings are coming out!". I had to crack a smile, it was so true.

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Old 03-16-2010, 08:30 AM
 
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It all depends on personality trait. Neurotic worrier that I am, I can't handle the NYC hectic environment well. If you're a type of person that can go with the flow, you can adapt to NYC.
I will most likely move to FL or TX sometime (hopefully) the end of next year.
I lived here all my life, and don't get me wrong, NY is a great city in many respects, and I FULLY UNDERSTAND that FL or TX have their issues, but I for one, am tired of:
- The ridiculously overpriced housing
- The crowds
- The crappy road conditions
- The whiny, overly opinionated personalities (of which I'm guilty of sometimes)
- The cold and snow
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Old 03-16-2010, 10:28 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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People "stressed" out living in New York are low income people. People who spend most on their income on rent (to only share with roommates and enjoy limited privacy) and basic living expenses. After all is paid...they have little disposable income to ENJOY themselves in this great city. But if you have a good income, you aren't that stressed as others. I moved out of NYC to finish my education back in '99, because I couldn't afford to stay. I got myself the finances to have a great place and even a nice car in the city...reason I moved back. I am not nearly as stressed now as I was back in the days. Money is really a factor for many of us when it relates to stress and living in the city. And it's funny...living in Houston "stressed" me out due to lack of diversity, all the cowboys, lack of entertainment and cultural options. Also the car culture in the south makes people less "social" than NYC. It's MUCH easier to meet new people in NYC than in the south.
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