Where do young people go out? (New York, York: house, school, live)

[loss4words]

I know this is a strange question coming from someone who lives in NYC, but nevertheless.

I guess a little bit about me: I'm extremely shy and quite young guy. Most of my life I've hung out with a small cirlce of friends or just spent a lot of time at home doing whatever. Now the times have changed: close friends went on with their lifes and most have their own families and there's not much for me to do at home. I want to go out on weekends but don't know where to go. Kind of embarassed to even be asking this but lonelyness is killing me

Thanks!

[SeventhFloor]

Originally Posted by loss4words

I know this is a strange question coming from someone who lives in NYC, but nevertheless.

I guess a little bit about me: I'm extremely shy and quite young guy. Most of my life I've hung out with a small cirlce of friends or just spent a lot of time at home doing whatever. Now the times have changed: close friends went on with their lifes and most have their own families and there's not much for me to do at home. I want to go out on weekends but don't know where to go. Kind of embarassed to even be asking this but lonelyness is killing me

Thanks!

well what do you like to do? tell us and then we can reccomend some spots to meet new people.

[xavierob82]

Go to Bar None in the East Village if you're feeling lonely.

[gradstudent77]

Originally Posted by loss4words

I know this is a strange question coming from someone who lives in NYC, but nevertheless.

I guess a little bit about me: I'm extremely shy and quite young guy. Most of my life I've hung out with a small cirlce of friends or just spent a lot of time at home doing whatever. Now the times have changed: close friends went on with their lifes and most have their own families and there's not much for me to do at home. I want to go out on weekends but don't know where to go. Kind of embarassed to even be asking this but lonelyness is killing me

Thanks!

Did you mean for a date or like a bar/dance spot type thing? It reads like you mean nightlife-type activities, so I'm going to respond to it as if that's what you meant:

If you're lonely, the place to meet people isn't really where people go out on weekends. You should assess what you're interested in and then join groups that correspond to your interests, or go to events related to your interests. Perhaps take a class or whatever. Start hanging out with people from work/school and invite people you share interests with out to the things you're both interested in.

As for going out on the weekends, just go to the LES or East Village and wander around walking into places that don't charge cover.

[noladarling]

Go to the Village Pour House on tuesdays and play Rock Band! It's fun and so are the patrons:-)

[tpk-nyc]

If you're shy, your problem is not finding groups of people but being introduced to people. You can go to the biggest party in the city but if you're shy, you're never going to meet anyone. I would suggest joining a group where people are introduced, like intramural basketball or a book club. This is New York; there's a club somewhere for even the most obscure interests.

[Catherine Sinclair]

Amen to tpk-nyc's comment.

Bars aren't the best bet for actually meeting people -- if people are using bars as a meeting spot, well, it tends to be for one thing only. Definitely try to join some kind of group.