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Old 11-14-2011, 08:55 AM
 
Location: southwestern USA
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Living in South Florida, we are inundated with both transplanted and seasonal New Yorkers.

Most of them are decent people----I do find on the whole, they are more direct than other people and are less prone to tact. If they have something to say they will say it and if you dont care for it thats not their problem.

I am not sure if it rudeness----their directness and blunt answers may be misconstrued by a lot of people as being rude.

At times, I wish some New Yorkers down here would show a little more tact and diplomacy. The idea of retiring in Florida is to mellow out and melt away your aggressiveness. Some folks from New York cannot accomplish the transition from the rat race to chill outsville, and it irritates a lot of people.

Again, I would say about 80-85% of New Yorkers down here are good solid people. To the other 15% we would ask you to embrace the idea of toning down the rhetoric a bit----try embracing the idea that things down here are not the way they are in New York.
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Old 11-14-2011, 09:02 AM
 
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I don't think New Yorkers are rude. I think many of us are hard working and busy. When someone causes an interference, then the reaction can be perceived as "rude".
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Old 11-14-2011, 10:59 AM
 
Location: NYPD"s 30th Precinct
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A big part of it is that most New Yorkers have a place to be and a time to be there by. This is in direct opposition to being the tourist capital of the world.

And, deserved or not, New York does have a rep for being rude, so I'm sure some people feel the need to fit the role and go out of their way to be rude in a manner they may otherwise not, were they living somewhere else.

The only time I've really lost my cool was when I got into a screaming match night before last at a red light after some idiot ran a stop sign, then accused me of trying to kill his family when he almost hit me.
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Old 11-14-2011, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Hudson County, NJ
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Living in South Florida, we are inundated with both transplanted and seasonal New Yorkers.

Most of them are decent people----I do find on the whole, they are more direct than other people and are less prone to tact. If they have something to say they will say it and if you dont care for it thats not their problem.

I am not sure if it rudeness----their directness and blunt answers may be misconstrued by a lot of people as being rude.

At times, I wish some New Yorkers down here would show a little more tact and diplomacy. The idea of retiring in Florida is to mellow out and melt away your aggressiveness. Some folks from New York cannot accomplish the transition from the rat race to chill outsville, and it irritates a lot of people.

Again, I would say about 80-85% of New Yorkers down here are good solid people. To the other 15% we would ask you to embrace the idea of toning down the rhetoric a bit----try embracing the idea that things down here are not the way they are in New York.

I think NYers are also different when out of NY, for example FL on vacation. When I leave the area and go elsewhere where people are nice, i make an effort to go out of my way and be nice to them as they are also more pleasant with me. When in North jersey/NYC, I certainly come off as being more rude.
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Old 11-14-2011, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Dyker Heights
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Only on internet forums.
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Old 11-14-2011, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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I confronted an old Chinese lady and told her that she shouldn't be throwing trash on the ground today. I pointed to it and said, you can't just throw trash on the ground here. She looked at me like she didnt care. I'm sure she knew exactly what I was talking about even if she didn't speak English. She had thrown her used plastic spoon right on the sidewalk of the farmer's market. Didn't even attempt to find a trash can.

Who was rude? Her or me?

Well based on this I don't think it was rude i just think it is assertiveness. If that's the case then it's no big deal because I'm a pretty assertive person myself and would have no problem with this. Although it does depend on how you say it also that can make it rude, but yea. Well it's not a deciding factor for me I was just interested what new yorker had to say about it.
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Old 11-16-2011, 04:29 AM
 
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I completely agree with your post. It's not that NYers are rude, its just that there are so many people, going different directions, often with a deadline, that there isn't the time to be smiley and saying hello to every single person. Instead of a "stop, smile, say thank you." when someone holds a door open, you'll get a sideways smile and a quick "thanks". But the person is not less thankful.

It's a different kind of nice. One memory that stands out in my mind was a woman on the subway who unknowingly dropped her wallet out of her purse on the train. She got up to leave the train and about 4 people called out to her about her wallet. I've seen many incidents like that, and acts of random kindness and generosity. Once I saw a person dressed as a homeless woman putting money IN people's bags!

I actually prefer the "New York Nice" because it's real. I don't like areas of the country where the niceties are a formality or seem forced, I prefer it raw and from the heart.
Totally agree!
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Old 11-16-2011, 10:03 PM
 
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My first impression of NYers was that they were EXTREMELY friendly and hospitable. While I was standing around in the subway with my ginormous route map, people would come up and start giving me directions. While hauling my suitcase around, at least 4 times someone grabbed it from me (no questions asked) and took it up a flight of stairs for me. My shoe fell off at the top of a flight of subway stairs and a man ran allll the way back down and grabbed it for me. And this is coming from a native southern Californian where everyone makes eye contact and smiles at you. People here are genuine, but they don't hem and haw around with pleasantries. They get straight to the point.

And since moving here I've learned that what I once considered aggressive yelling isn't that at all. NYers will "yell" when they're talking about the weather, or asking you a mundane question. It's just how they talk. Don't take it personally.
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Old 11-16-2011, 11:58 PM
 
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Most people just go about their business and want to left alone.


This Kinks song sums it up :

There are millions of people out there
Trying to get by in a world that don't care
People smiling through clouds of despair
Protecting the wounds until they repair
They're surviving the best way they can
They are surviving every woman and man
Just surviving with an emotion plan
So keep surviving


The Kinks - Surviving - YouTube
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Old 11-17-2011, 05:55 AM
 
Location: Boynton Beach / Great Neck NY
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I confronted an old Chinese lady and told her that she shouldn't be throwing trash on the ground today. I pointed to it and said, you can't just throw trash on the ground here. She looked at me like she didnt care. I'm sure she knew exactly what I was talking about even if she didn't speak English. She had thrown her used plastic spoon right on the sidewalk of the farmer's market. Didn't even attempt to find a trash can.

Who was rude? Her or me?
I think it all depends on how you approached her. The rudeness is in how you possibly delivered the message, than the message itself.

Although I've only lived here for a little while, I think that there are a lot of rude people, or just stupid ignorant people.

My latest complaint is about the people with HUGE umbrellas. I'm talking about those umbrellas that take up the ENTIRE sidewalk. It's just ridiculous.

The sidewalks downtown are so narrow to begin with, I think you have to be either rude or stupid to purchase one of the King Kong sized umbrellas and attempt to walk down the street. Poking out peoples eyes, hitting people with them, and just making it difficult to walk down the street for others. Yesterday, I saw an umbrellas accident. About 5 people all jammed up that nobody could get by. The culprit causing the mess was one of those HUGE umbrellas.
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