Hello all,
I know this isn't a "therapy" site or anything of that nature but I'd like to see if anyone else has been through this experience and could share their thoughts/opinions/etc...
I recently relocated from California (Los Angeles) to Upstate New York (Syracuse). I've been here for about 5 months now and I can't help but honestly feel unmotivated and somewhat depressed. (nothing severe, I don't think).
So being 29 years old, I'm very ambitious about my personal/professional goals and I aspire to achieve success professionally. I took a promotion for my job and picked up my entire life and moved across the country. I left everything I knew back in California....Family, friends, pets, everything. I don't know a single person here in NY and it's really hard to meet new friends as I don't work in the same location every day. I work in sales and my territory spans the entire state of NY except NYC and LI. I see practically new faces every day so it's hard to connect on that level with people.
Coming from the "city" like Los Angeles, to a mostly "rural" area like upstate new york, it's been a very shocking/big transition. It's definitely an adjustment and I'm still trying to adjust. I spend a lot of time behind the wheel driving from one location to the next and recently, i just feel disconnected. When I drive to some parts of the state, i can't help but feel so out of place because it's so rural and I've grown up my whole life in "city and urban" locations. Being young, energetic, I feed off the "hustle & bustle" of a city environment. I can't do that when i drive around and see farmland and cows everywhere.
When I'm in LA or NYC, i feel "alive/energized" as you'd say...As the saying goes, "NYC, the city lights that will make you feel brand new."
Just simply being there made me ambitious to succeed and "go get it!" I feel like I've taken a serious decline in my motivation because my environment and my surrounding just doesn't cut it for me. I'm trying my best to stay optimistic and perform as my highest ability for my employer but no matter what, I just can't seem to keep a focus like I did when I was in LA.
I know most of you will say "go find another job in the city" or "go back to LA" or whatever, which is valid but I want to give this the best shot I can. I mean nothing negative towards upstate of the "rural" part of the state,it's a beautiful state but it's just hard for someone my age to transition here from a "city" life style. If I had a family, wife, or kids, this would be totally different as this environment would be ideal for me to raise a family in but I'm just not there yet...
I am normally the person who wants to go out, get friends together, go check things out but since being here, I've been less inclined to do anything, at all. I'd rather just come home from work, eat some food, and watch tv. On the weekends, I don't desire to go "explore" anything. I stay in to watch tv or if I'm really bored, I catch myself going to the mall/target several times a week just to kill time and I always buy useless crap to make me feel temporary happiness. I didn't realize this until recently when I sat down to analyze my recent spending and I realized I just keep buying stuff for no reason. I guess it's my way of distracting myself from being so lonely/bored.
Has anyone else gone through an experience like this? If you've experienced this and have been able to turn it around, I'd appreciate any feedback/input you have. I don't want to be that person who "quits" because he couldn't do it. I want to do my best, given the circumstances but I'll admit that it's pretty difficult.