Hmmm ... just posted on another thread comparing Oneonta and Ithaca so instead of rewriting I'll just copy and paste it here and delete the stuff on Ithaca ... sounds like you want to be close to the city (as in NYC), but not in it. A lot of people in that area actually commute to the city (nutty in my mind), but I'm just a simple minded country gal, so what do I know about that?
There are two colleges in Oneonta so you can expect a wide range of diversity and have never found the area to be racist in any form. I went to HS in Stamford, a small town 30 minutes from Oneonta. Plenty of outdoor things to do all year long ... the mountains and outdoor playground is a stone's throw away and the snow and cold was never a reason for me to sit inside, I just went out to explore more ... skiing (cross country and downhill), snowshoeing, walking in the stillness of the cold winter air, sledding, etc. Main St is a big bar scene. I'm 4 hours away now, but occasionally will visit Oneonta to listen to a friend's band play. It is very safe as the above poster mentioned.