Warnings of moving to the south (Boston, Charlotte: jobs, house, building)

[BigHouse9]

Just a footnote concerning 'state politics and state financial "situation"', these are things that are not being handled too well down here either. Lots of problems with the Wake County schhol systems and for more insight on the state government:

http://www.theconservativevoice.com/article/21883.html

[Upstate Dave]

Originally Posted by BigHouse9

Just a footnote concerning 'state politics and state financial "situation"', these are things that are not being handled too well down here either. Lots of problems with the Wake County schhol systems and for more insight on the state government:

http://www.theconservativevoice.com/article/21883.html

Yep.... not really surprised to hear of dysfunctional government issues anywhere. It's normal. It's always good to have the heads up when considering relocating, yet it still doesn't stop me from controlling my own happiness. Thanks for the link.

[mm_mary73]

Originally Posted by BigHouse9

Not like you are going to have land in the metro NC areas though.

I have 4.25 ACRES and a 3800 sq. ft. house. Does that qualify?

[mm_mary73]

Originally Posted by garmin239

There is a difference ... being an ignorant jerk that makes assumptions about people before getting to know them.

Seems as if the majority of the posts I've read so far in this thread are doing just that, although the thread's heading should've been a clue..... Guess I'll not visit NY this way anymore.

[BigHouse9]

Originally Posted by mm_mary73

I have 4.25 ACRES and a 3800 sq. ft. house. Does that qualify?

What metro area are you in? Would you agree that you are the rare exception?

[terrence81]

Just thought I'd put in my two cents being from the South. Yeah I think some just have had a bad experience and there's racism everywhere. I think racism at least in Columbus, Georgia is subtle and rarely in your face. Mix that with Southern politeness and you have this smile in your face attitude then talk trash behind your back type of thing and that's not just with racism that's with just about anything.

Also there are different parts of the South, not everyone is backwards not everyone is progressive either. Columbus is soooooo conservative and yes I'm looking to move. But I've lived here my whole life and I haven't heard anyone use the word yankee since elementary school but if someone is from somewhere else it's noticed it's pointed out but rarely with the intention of that being a bad thing. However now the enviornment is less and less friendly for immigrants I will say.

[amsm196]

Fire,

Where are you moving back to? And when? Also good point on the NY crime, i'm originally from Brooklyn & Long Island ( Both Nassua & Suffolk ), but when we moved to Las Vegas the locals here constantly asked us " wow so your from NY? Did you ever get mugged? Theres alot of crime in NY huh? I still laugh at that.

To be totally honest, i never had any serious crime problems ( Thank God ) in my 27 years living in NY, but in the 10 living here we had many run ins with trouble. We want out of Vegas and are considering Raleigh NC, but some of these posts make me think twice, yet we cant afford to live on Long Island anymore.

So where else do you guys recommend in the north as a safe and still affordable place to raise a young family?

Thanks ---Tony

Originally Posted by FIRE-GUY

I feel your pain! left upstate ny 17 months ago, living in south carolina hate it house is for sale moving back ASAP.This back stabbing rebel flag flying red neck south really does not like us yankee's, my friends from long island had there childrens teacher refer to them as "let the yankee answer the question" and there 6th grade teacher tells the class that if a women was walking down a street in ny and was getting raped no one would stop and help! Hello do you know that NYC is as safe a place today as it was in the 1940s that is according to police crime records!

[NomadicRaider]

Yes and no becuase in Chicago there is deep ties to the south especially if you are living in a black community.So people do not view you as a yankee.They have also rural areas of chicago similar too the sout.

And why does a Southern state have to be considered primitive to be the deep South,see that shows why Southerners don't take to kind to the North.They do have the right to be afraid of the change in the southern lifestyle becuas it can be corrupted by northerners who choose not to adapt.

[ClarkStreetKid]

Laughing my butt off over people thinking the South is primitive.

[mom2gurls]

Originally Posted by NCMOMOFTWO

Your Kidding right???? Once again happiness is what people make of if, and if more people than less people love it there..It sounds like you had a bad experience and that is too bad, and funny thing is NC isnt the deep South and to compare it too a state that is thats funny...I do real estate and I hear from so many people here from NY/NJ who just love it there and would live no where else, I guess not all states is for everyone?? people love NJ, Im leaving it I wont miss it....Remember a few bad apples are EVERYWHERE, RACISM IS EVERYWHERE AND NASTINESS IS EVERYWHERE.......and IGNORANCE IS EVERYWHERE...Anyway, I think I stated my point...Its ok NOT to like a place and give an opinon, I dont like NJ and its WAY EXPENSIVE BUT i will NOT trash it because it doesnt work for my family and I anymore....

Ditto- Having not moved (yet--lol)...after reading these forums after Dh had a chance to do the carolinas thing last year on a NY salary...we chose to hold out for a place that jived with us better. The job was in south carolina and we met only nice people, that welcomed us..but it was going to be a corporate relo..so maybe things worked differently.

Anyway, I just have to add...reading these post about the bashing (especially about the carolinas)....I only have to wonder..did those that move due their complete due diligence? I mean its totally one thing to move after one or two scouting/vacation trips...and just think "wow, look how much house we can get there, wow look at the weather, wow this and wow that". But its totally another thing to spend months doing some solid research, visiting more than 2 times and NOT when you are taking a vacation, spending a week in the town, visiting the schools, asking the questions...even meeting with recruiters, and headhunters personally and state that you are planning on moving and want to work with someone to find a good paying job.

And some find their groove and love it, others absolutely hate it because it doesnt resemble things that they truly do miss.

You cant have it both ways, people have been moving from state to state for the past zillion years, its not unheard off..I cant stand the name transplants....what about, "we just moved" due because we found a job..or we wanted to get away from the hub-bub of the city.

Selling your home, cashing in on the equity and plunking it down on a new home, without some real plan, no job, no real research (except a couple of vacation trips) ...isnt a safe bet in my opinion. I am not saying everyone does it that way. But it seems like people get out on the NYC/boroughs/ NJ area in droves.

And no offense to the Natives of NY (not a native NYer but from the west coast)..what is with the complaint of "I cant get a decent pizza, the food is awful". I mean come on, are you serious? After making a life decision, you bash the new place you and then complain about pizza and food? Did anyone honestly think that you could relocate the stores, pizza, and other nuances that you love about NY to the new place? And did you not realize that its a hotter climate before you moved..so why complain about the heat either?
And then you wonder why the new state that you move to cannot stand it or the constant "In new york we have this, IN NY we do it this way---....if you want NY in Carolina..then you are better staying in ny right?

Its like complaining about Maryland crab cakes or Maine lobster after moving to say the midwest. It doesnt make sense.

Each state and parts of a state have their nuances, cultures and customs..and if you want to move there, personally I think you have to leave the chip and attitude (no matter what state you hail from originally) and embrace what he new state has to offer. If someone did indeed do their due diligence, then in theory there shouldnt be a problem.

Dont get me wrong..I think there are certain times (christmas time in the city) and seeing a that first dusting of snow are magical..and yes..I yield to the fact that I have never tasted such pizza here, the people are vivacious and have lots of spunk. But if you are looking to move, there are much for factors that you need to look at..it shouldnt be such a quick decision. JMHO dont mean to offend.