Do you miss NY now the you have left? (New York: fit in, sales)

[Chella]

At one point my husband wanted to consider moving to SC. I thought we would be divorced if he was serious. I know I couldn't leave LI.. Not because other places aren't lovely.. I just know I would miss NY way too much.
I'm lucky enough that I can afford to live on LI in a very nice area. I have no problem visiting anywhere else.. but this is my home and always will be.

[Söy]

I didn't even move yet and i miss it. It's gonna suck big time i know it.

[Positiveone]

Why are you moving & where to?

Originally Posted by Söy

I didn't even move yet and i miss it. It's gonna suck big time i know it.

[Hal Evans]

Originally Posted by Dragonchaser

How many of you have moved away from New York, for what ever reason, miss it now? I lived in WNY and moved to Maryland I never thought I would be home sick to this extent, but I desperately miss home. Am I the only one?

I come back and visit at least once a year. Some parts of NYC don't really change much, like upper Chelsea. Lots of old industrial buildings, vintage stuff.

[averagenyjoe]

WOW!!!! I found my place. I just returned to NY after 23 years in NC and thought I loved it for the first 10 years or so (I put my best foot and attitude forward and defended all things southern against anyone who would speak against it) but then spent the rest of the time trying to get back out. Finally. Back home. Though there are certainly challanges to living in a very overtaxed property state I am still glad to be back. Everyone here has stated it so perfectly. Was in the Charlotte region the whole time. I remember when Lake Norman wasnt even there when I went there as a young boy. Then we moved and just in the last 23 yrs this place has gone from Mayberry to Los Angeles. Never ending sprawling cul-de-sac neighborhoods of a thousand homes each and most developments dont connect. People dont go outside, of course you cant with the gagging humidity and pouring sweat after the first 1.7 seconds of exiting your door. All history older than 20 years is torn down and sprawling strip malls and glassy offices put in their place. Super-Walmarts on every corner. No sidewalks and if you do happen to find some roads in the country there are NO shoulders to walk or ride a bike because you would be killed by a chicken truck flying down the road at 90 mph. Developers own the city and towns and get around most inspection and zoning laws and houses are not made to last longer than 20 years before they fall slam apart at the seems. Chain restaurants always make the top 10 awards for best restaurants. EVERY YEAR running. Geeeezzz!!!! Sloppy ball cap wearing, marble mouth speaking, tobacco spitting, construction truck driving goon balls EVERYWHERE! I have done much construction myself so dont pick this one apart, you know what I mean if you've been there. "hay-el yea man" and "day-am". must be the only requirement on the southern SAT exams to pass in order to leave high school. "Well bless your heart" is the superficial way of saying "I really dont care,why dont you drop dead, you dirt-bag". Red dirt, of course, the kind that doesnt come out of clothes even if you use chemicals designed only for warfare. I've been Baptist most of my life but these Baptist beat anything I've ever seen. Oh! how about storm water tax. That means the amount of rain that falls on your property is estimated and you are taxed for that stinkin' rain. Now that takes a very certain kind of politician to come up with that little trick. Oh, I could just go on & on & on but its been summed up nicely by so many others here. Have a great day.

[smalltownusa]

Originally Posted by averagenyjoe

WOW!!!! I found my place. I just returned to NY after 23 years in NC and thought I loved it for the first 10 years or so (I put my best foot and attitude forward and defended all things southern against anyone who would speak against it) but then spent the rest of the time trying to get back out. Finally. Back home. Though there are certainly challanges to living in a very overtaxed property state I am still glad to be back. Everyone here has stated it so perfectly. Was in the Charlotte region the whole time. I remember when Lake Norman wasnt even there when I went there as a young boy. Then we moved and just in the last 23 yrs this place has gone from Mayberry to Los Angeles. Never ending sprawling cul-de-sac neighborhoods of a thousand homes each and most developments dont connect. People dont go outside, of course you cant with the gagging humidity and pouring sweat after the first 1.7 seconds of exiting your door. All history older than 20 years is torn down and sprawling strip malls and glassy offices put in their place. Super-Walmarts on every corner. No sidewalks and if you do happen to find some roads in the country there are NO shoulders to walk or ride a bike because you would be killed by a chicken truck flying down the road at 90 mph. Developers own the city and towns and get around most inspection and zoning laws and houses are not made to last longer than 20 years before they fall slam apart at the seems. Chain restaurants always make the top 10 awards for best restaurants. EVERY YEAR running. Geeeezzz!!!! Sloppy ball cap wearing, marble mouth speaking, tobacco spitting, construction truck driving goon balls EVERYWHERE! I have done much construction myself so dont pick this one apart, you know what I mean if you've been there. "hay-el yea man" and "day-am". must be the only requirement on the southern SAT exams to pass in order to leave high school. "Well bless your heart" is the superficial way of saying "I really dont care,why dont you drop dead, you dirt-bag". Red dirt, of course, the kind that doesnt come out of clothes even if you use chemicals designed only for warfare. I've been Baptist most of my life but these Baptist beat anything I've ever seen. Oh! how about storm water tax. That means the amount of rain that falls on your property is estimated and you are taxed for that stinkin' rain. Now that takes a very certain kind of politician to come up with that little trick. Oh, I could just go on & on & on but its been summed up nicely by so many others here. Have a great day.

I love it...the curtain has been yanked back on the land of Oz ...AGAIN.....one should realize that there really no place like home

[I'minformed2]

You think Charlotte is a sprawling flavorless metro? Head about 2 hours east to "the triangle" and see if you can even find the "city" of Raleigh in all the endless cookie-cutter sprawl.

[Berkshires413]

Originally Posted by averagenyjoe

WOW!!!! I found my place. I just returned to NY after 23 years in NC and thought I loved it for the first 10 years or so (I put my best foot and attitude forward and defended all things southern against anyone who would speak against it) but then spent the rest of the time trying to get back out. Finally. Back home. Though there are certainly challanges to living in a very overtaxed property state I am still glad to be back. Everyone here has stated it so perfectly. Was in the Charlotte region the whole time. I remember when Lake Norman wasnt even there when I went there as a young boy. Then we moved and just in the last 23 yrs this place has gone from Mayberry to Los Angeles. Never ending sprawling cul-de-sac neighborhoods of a thousand homes each and most developments dont connect. People dont go outside, of course you cant with the gagging humidity and pouring sweat after the first 1.7 seconds of exiting your door. All history older than 20 years is torn down and sprawling strip malls and glassy offices put in their place. Super-Walmarts on every corner. No sidewalks and if you do happen to find some roads in the country there are NO shoulders to walk or ride a bike because you would be killed by a chicken truck flying down the road at 90 mph. Developers own the city and towns and get around most inspection and zoning laws and houses are not made to last longer than 20 years before they fall slam apart at the seems. Chain restaurants always make the top 10 awards for best restaurants. EVERY YEAR running. Geeeezzz!!!! Sloppy ball cap wearing, marble mouth speaking, tobacco spitting, construction truck driving goon balls EVERYWHERE! I have done much construction myself so dont pick this one apart, you know what I mean if you've been there. "hay-el yea man" and "day-am". must be the only requirement on the southern SAT exams to pass in order to leave high school. "Well bless your heart" is the superficial way of saying "I really dont care,why dont you drop dead, you dirt-bag". Red dirt, of course, the kind that doesnt come out of clothes even if you use chemicals designed only for warfare. I've been Baptist most of my life but these Baptist beat anything I've ever seen. Oh! how about storm water tax. That means the amount of rain that falls on your property is estimated and you are taxed for that stinkin' rain. Now that takes a very certain kind of politician to come up with that little trick. Oh, I could just go on & on & on but its been summed up nicely by so many others here. Have a great day.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I am from upstate NY, a bit south of Albany - and live in the northern Charlotte suburbs, near Fake Norman, and if I could leave this hell hole tommorow, I would. Going to definately happen within the next year or so, though. I post on the Charlotte board from time to time to discuss my love (not) of the Charlotte area... And then the Stepford wives club who dilengently defend their cuttie cutter neighborhoods and the mecca of culture, Charlotte... well... they don't care much for my opinion of it down here. They are very defensive of this plastic environment that they call home. People come to this area in droves, thinking its nirvana or something... ugh. I don't get the to it attraction, at all. I never came to stay, just for a year or two...I have some family here, and we just had a baby -and thought it would be nice to be around them for a bit - but cannot believe how much I miss upstate NY... and how quickly I hated living here. And I too, could go on and on about it all.... whew.

[Steve-o]

Originally Posted by smalltownusa

I love it...the curtain has been yanked back on the land of Oz ...AGAIN.....one should realize that there really no place like home

LOL

Thats hilarious. Without a doubt, that is the PERFECT reply to that scenario.

I see all these folks rushing to the south or the southwest or west, and all I can think of is a herd of buffalo, following each other straight off the cliff edge. Blind leading the blind I suppose...

Sure some end up liking their new homes, albeit sometimes forceably Im sure, but I see so many come back home because they were fools who rushed in. Im not from NYC, or even NY for that matter, but we get alot of those folks here too that have the same mindset. I can relate, so I had to respond. Anyways, carry on lads!

[averagenyjoe]

Originally Posted by opelske

I understand it is easy to become home sick, but some of these posts are so rude. Like "don't even bother trying to buy lox." .........That's why so many transplants to other parts of the Country just don't make it. Aside from being homesick, which is understandable, they simply have no respect for another's culture.

Please spare us all. Of course there are some snotty remarks but understand that this is really not about a disrespect for ones culture. I think all these New yorkers have sufficiently described the UTMOST respect for various cultures. You cannot say you LOVE NY without loving diversity and culture. In most cases it is the "culture-thingy" that attracted most New Yorkers in the first place, right behind the cheaper cost of living. What I see described is poor "infastructure" ie: roads, sprawl, That is a dumb growth issue, not a cultural issue. "crime". That is not a cultural issue, its human greed and hatred issue, "superficial facade". that is not a cultural issue, that is ignorance and dishonesty. "quality of life". That is not cultural, that stems right back to dumb growth and planning. A rat race is not cultural, its insanity and demoralizing.
Now, Using Sir & Mam in every sentenance is cultural, faithfull attendance to a wierd Baptist church without fail is cultural, grits & a deep fried livermush patty for breakfast is cultural, grown adults calling their parents Mamma & diddy is cultural. Grandparents raising their grandchildren is cultural, Parents still buying their "20-something" sons clothing, first car and their first trailer may be cultural, cruising the town square half the night through is cultural, taking all your clothes off except your skimpy shorts and painting yourself orange and whooping like a blame-fool at a ball game is cultural and so on ... I have see very very little criticizing these distinctives. And once a New Yorker moves and finds out what the culture really is and that the stereotypical "mayberry" doesnt exist and never really did then most agree that the "South" is not for them. But it is not the cultural thingy that is most complained about. food is indeed an overused complaint but other than that it is mostly the ignorance oriented issues that are most bothersome.

Nuff said 01:23 AM
Catie
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I feel your pain Average Joe.....

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I agree with you Joe. My uncle and aunt bought a mobile home in Hamden New York near Delhi about 10 years ago. They are from Brooklyn, but they are not rich and the 18 acre property was not expensive...however over the years the property tax got to be too much and they sold the land and mobile home..and in their case they lived 3 hours away, so they found it difficult to keep up property.

I love the rural atmosphere of Delaware County, but it was so sad that Hamden had no town---only a post office and a bunch of falling down buildings along the main street. Delhi does have a small town….

I love New York State and I have been researching different areas where I would be interested in living. I almost fell off my chair when I found that home prices and property taxes in some New York State neighborhoods were comparable to northeastern NJ.

I don't think that pay scales in some areas of New York State are comparable to northern NJ for example. This would be fine, if the property tax and home prices were low. However, if they are not, living in New York State becomes unaffordable or nearly unaffordable. It is very upsetting because upstate New York is so beautiful and has so much to offer. ! The potential is great.


Instead....people from NYC have their second homes upstate and those average Joe’s who would like to live there as permanent residents don't know if they can afford it. I wish more job opportunities and affordable housing would be available in NYS. The situation is very frustrating and unfair.

Catie