Do you miss NY now the you have left? (New York: hotel, neighborhood)

[averagenyjoe]

Originally Posted by carvers wife

It's only been a few weeks since we actually left NY, and it's going to be a process, as we sold a lot and bought a place that needs some work that's going to take time. We left with only what we could fit in a 15' moving truck and pulled one vehicle...so far, I'm going to say no way do I miss Ny. But I can say that if it wasn't about the economic depression and high taxes there we may not have considered leaving in the first place. Someday I may miss it, but I don't really think I could go back as long as times are so tough there.

Going to change my tune for a moment. I really do think sometimes it is good for New Yorkers to get away because you're right. The financial climate up here does take its toll and you make it clear that it's not NY you hate but that you just want to make a better life and need a change. One thing that the South has that I actually appreciate is the "Southern Pride" Though I dont really understand anymore what it is they are so very proud of. nevertheless many New Yorkers by & large dont appreciate what all is here. Until they leave for a while, that is. you sound like you do, so I want to wish you well and by all means ENJOY it. Put your best foot forward and make the best of it while you can. There is many things that you will enjoy and the break is necessary. just remember, most people who leave, including myself said the "same exact thing" --being that it is very unlikely to return. In fact I said "NEVER" so emphatically that I was determined in my soul to never come back. someone said once, "season your words nicely, you may have to eat them sometime" Oh how true, in my case. I was at 23 years there before I had to get out. "i'minformed" is at 12 yrs and is ripe & ready. Who knows for you, Just enjoy it and be blessed. I mean it.

[smalltownusa]

Originally Posted by Berkshires413

Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I am from upstate NY, a bit south of Albany - and live in the northern Charlotte suburbs, near Fake Norman, and if I could leave this hell hole tommorow, I would. Going to definately happen within the next year or so, though. I post on the Charlotte board from time to time to discuss my love (not) of the Charlotte area... And then the Stepford wives club who dilengently defend their cuttie cutter neighborhoods and the mecca of culture, Charlotte... well... they don't care much for my opinion of it down here. They are very defensive of this plastic environment that they call home. People come to this area in droves, thinking its nirvana or something... ugh. I don't get the to it attraction, at all. I never came to stay, just for a year or two...I have some family here, and we just had a baby -and thought it would be nice to be around them for a bit - but cannot believe how much I miss upstate NY... and how quickly I hated living here. And I too, could go on and on about it all.... whew.

Yes, the Stepford Club..it's alive and well in pseudo-Oz, NC although I have my suspicions the club is mainly comprised of transplants who are trying to solidify their own decision to move to cookie-cutter, big box nothingness.....(surely I will get a slap on the rep for that...)(:

[NYFAstudent]

[quote=cuse;1053990]I couldn't stand Florida....Wanted Back to North East ASAP

Sorry but YES I MISSED NY! I went home to visit and purchased a home with land, neighbors that I'll know for more than two months, trees and not palms, no bugs/lizards/fire ants, and the total opposite from the above! I moved here and everyday woke up and found I was not dreaming ( Still Here!! That is home sick) Finally back home....I Love New York!! Always Will




Took the words out of my mouth! I moved from LI -NY to Tampa then from there to Charlotte. I missed NY tremendously but fear of going back to the high cost of living and need to be able to raise my children in a decent size house is what made me stop short and try Charlotte. A little over a year ago, my uncle moved from LI to Charlotte and when visiting him here in Charlotte, I ran into many NYers that had relocated and all seemed to love NC. Well I have been here a year and in that time my uncle moved back to NY. His neighbors across the street are moving back to NY in 2008 and I am looking into options now to do the same thing. I miss the people, food, culture, beach, Manhattan, block parties, the smell of people using there grills and friends that keep it real! Glad to know that I am not alone in my thoughts and love for the city that never sleeps.

[I'minformed2]

I have something that I think needs to be said.....if you TRULY love New York, or wherever you may happen to live or originally be from, and feel that it is your home, and that you are in the right place there.....don't move. Yes, there may be other areas that offer more house for your money, or weather that suits you better....but if you are truly happy where you live, and especially if that is near your family.....just stay put! This can apply to anyone and I'm not singling anyone out. Heck, it applies to me too and I should have taken my own advice years ago

[AZParents]

I'm from upstate NY (Ilion, to be exact), and have lived in Phoenix/Scottsdale AZ for 9 yrs. I met my wife here - she's from CT, went to school in UNC Charlotte, and has been here 10 years.

I miss upstate NY for many of the reasons others have posted here. I never left because of weather; I left for job opportunity that simply did not exist in upstate NY. I'd go back in a second if we hadn't decided on moving to CT instead to be near my wife's brother's family.

Phoenix was great when we were dating, first married, and living the "material" life. Shopping, eating out, you name it Phoenix has it. I loved it the first 5 years I was here and swore I'd never leave.

THEN, we had 2 children. Well, we've done a 180 and now can't wait to escape back to the northeast. I think the bottom line is that, often, these large, new, growing cities are good for younger, single people but not so great for families. It can take time for people who come from small towns to realize what they're missing. We've known many people who left AZ to go back "home" after having kids, and none of them regret it.

[averagenyjoe]

Originally Posted by AZParents

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..... I think the bottom line is that, often, these large, new, growing cities are good for younger, single people but not so great for families. It can take time for people who come from small towns to realize what they're missing. We've known many people who left AZ to go back "home" after having kids, and none of them regret it.

Oh, this is so well said. You hit the nail right on the head. I never thought of it quite in those terms but that is my story EXACTLY. Went to NC when I was single and loved every minute of it but then got married and had our first child and something in me just revolted. Thinking "my son is NOT going to grow up like this". Never realized it but that is the exact time my heart shut down on the South. I have reconciled my hatred but I still dont care for the South and I dont regret coming back North. The New South is who they are and that is fine for them but its not for me.

Thanks again for this wonderful post

[smalltownusa]

Originally Posted by AZParents

I'm from upstate NY (Ilion, to be exact), and have lived in Phoenix/Scottsdale AZ for 9 yrs. I met my wife here - she's from CT, went to school in UNC Charlotte, and has been here 10 years.

I miss upstate NY for many of the reasons others have posted here. I never left because of weather; I left for job opportunity that simply did not exist in upstate NY. I'd go back in a second if we hadn't decided on moving to CT instead to be near my wife's brother's family.

Phoenix was great when we were dating, first married, and living the "material" life. Shopping, eating out, you name it Phoenix has it. I loved it the first 5 years I was here and swore I'd never leave.

THEN, we had 2 children. Well, we've done a 180 and now can't wait to escape back to the northeast. I think the bottom line is that, often, these large, new, growing cities are good for younger, single people but not so great for families. It can take time for people who come from small towns to realize what they're missing. We've known many people who left AZ to go back "home" after having kids, and none of them regret it.

I have had my whole family return from Phoenix over the last 8 years after landing there via Kodak and my uncle's transfers.....they missed NY immensely and are so glad to be back....as for the "trapped in our homes all winter".....they never left theirs all summer due to the heat...it's all relative. For me, I'd rather be sitting by the fire eating chili and drinking hot cocoa watching the snow swirl than sitting in AC seeing a beautiful sunny day that takes my breathe away once I step out the door......

[Fern435]

As you can see, I'm new here. I have lived or traveled through nearly every state of the U.S. and finally got to see parts of upstate New York for the first time last August and then again this past weekend. It is very beautiful and so clean! People are extremely friendly, too. It's nice to see people who take care of their state and have pride in it.

[rabit152]

Originally Posted by Dragonchaser

How many of you have moved away from New York, for what ever reason, miss it now? I lived in WNY and moved to Maryland I never thought I would be home sick to this extent, but I desperately miss home. Am I the only one?

I’ve found this particular thread fascinating, and the responses varied…as one might expect. Here’s my two cents, in case anyone wants to make change…

I was born and raised in upstate New York, but don’t have the fond memories of family or places past. I enlisted in the Air Force in ’76, right after high school. Been back many times to visit family over the years. This is my point of view…

There are basically two kinds of people; those that wander, and those who stay put. Some learn early on that they were born to wander; others figure it out later in life. Still others are perfectly content to stay where they are. Either is fine. Most who “miss home” or those who rail against where they currently live, probably haven’t figured this out yet.

There is a world of difference between living in NYS, NYC, and Long Island. Proximity is about all these places have in common. Just as there is a huge difference between city folk and country folk.

The cost of living in NY is always going to be an issue for some. This can include whatever you want it to; housing, pay, taxes, utilities, etc... Granted, it’s not the same throughout the state, but I don’t see NY ever being considered a good cost of living state. At least, not in my lifetime. Then again, NY is not the only state where that is true.

Bottom line is anywhere can be “home”. It’s really about attitude. If you make up your mind that you’re going to have a good experience, you probably will. The same is true for a bad experience. Food, traffic, weather, people, even politics, are what you make of them, regardless of where you live.

Do I miss NY? Some things, yes. Some things, no. Will I go back? Definitely. But probably only for visits. Two things are for certain, New York is a state of mind. And, no matter how hard you try…you can never go home again.

And isn’t it possible that the unfriendly, rude people, so many have mentioned, are themselves transplants from other places…who might just be unhappy and wanting to move back home? Just a thought.

Finally, if you think the grass is always greener on the other side, it’s not. It’s just different.

[djknight]

I'm tempted to say that moving away from NYS was the biggest mistake I ever made, but I met my husband in Southern California, and I've gained a lot of friends and cultural experiences in my wanderings. So while it may not have been a mistake to leave, I do miss it terribly.

Currently in the South, which is -- different. Okay scratch that, it's DIFFERENT. There are days here that I'm so home sick for NY, I just want to cry.

We're thinking about moving back once the last of the kids graduate, but it's so darned expensive. I don't know how my parents managed to raise five kids in Rockland County with none of us starving to death.

I would really, really love to live in Pearl River again, but I'm rather fond of my limbs and loathe to start auctioning them off so ...

Cheers.

D