Is everyone in my family an idiot?

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by mjohnson4381

Ugh...I'm so frustrated with my siblings. One of my sisters (31-years old) can't afford to live on her own, so she's living with my parents. So is her baby, her boyfriend, and his two kids. And she's also pregnant for the second time in two years. Another sister (33-years old) doesn't work, she stays at home with her two teenage daughters and one-year old son. Her husband is self-employed and hasn't been getting much work lately. They're always worried about money and they're always asking for donations from the rest of the family so they can pay bills. I just found out that this older sister is now pregnant with number four. Am I crazy or is it insane to get pregnant with your FOURTH kid while your husband has no job security and you're so worried about paying your bills that you're constantly asking for "donations"?

I guess this isn't really my business. I have in the past given my sisters money, but this is just beyond ridiculous. I'm not going to finance their stupid decisions anymore. Maybe if I stop giving them money, I won't get so annoyed every time one of them gets pregnant.

Sorry for complaining. I just wanted to vent somewhere.

Stop giving them money?? Not going to finance their stupid decisions anymore?? Is that what I read???
nope the only idiot is you..for givining them money

[VBmom]

Originally Posted by sheena12

Have babies and no real job.
Very weird but you are not alone - there are people like this all over.

Sadly, that's the truth. Until we stop paying women more in welfare for each baby they have, this trend will continue. What we need us welfare reform stating that you MUST have Norplant if you are over the age of 10, female, and on welfare. Only then will we stop this silly multi-generational dependence on welfare and break the cycle of poverty.

Finished ranting. I will now crawl back into my hole.

[mjohnson4381]

Originally Posted by Avienne

OP, I ask this in all seriousness: Is your family Catholic?

I mean, if your parents had seven kids, and now your sisters are popping them out, well...


YouTube - Every Sperm is Sacred {Monty Python's Meaning of Life}

Yeah, actually, they are. My parents don't believe in birth control, so that explains where me and all my siblings came from. But, my siblings do believe in birth control. It's not about religion with them. It's either because they like having kids or because they forget to use protection...I don't know. It would probably be inappropriate to ask.

And thanks for the video! That brings back memories. Monty Python is always good for a laugh.

[mjohnson4381]

Originally Posted by NeilVA

They've made their choices and you've made yours. If you can afford it, its ok to throw them a few bucks here and there. Family is family keep the bridges open. Truthfully they are probably users and will take as much as they can guilt out of you. As long as they are not dragging you down just do it. They will most likely never thank you. Just think of as charity.

Thanks, that's the way I originally saw it. But, after noticing things like the fact that their 13-year-old daughter has an iPhone and they're planning a summer vacation made me start to wonder if they really do need help. In fact, I'm not sure if the money I gave to them really mattered to them at all. Maybe I'm delusional and they really don't have that many problems.

[mjohnson4381]

Originally Posted by sunshineleith

Sounds like they need to hear the words "Make wise choices". Best you can do is not emulate them - doesn't sound like you ever would. Try to see their good points and don't give them any money.

Yes, they definitely do have good points. Thanks for bringing that up...I should remember that the next time I feel like ranting about everything.