Do you have conflict, irritation and anger with your friends? (wife, boyfriend)

[email_lover]

Does anyone watch those 'Housewives in X" shows on BRAVO TV? These are woman who are mostly friends but they are always fighting like cats and dogs. This made me wonder, does the average person have fights with their friends.

I do and can get very irritated at my close friends. Women can be catty and cruel but I think we are closer to our friends than men. My closest woman friends and I are very intimate and share so much in our lives and we interact so often that there is many opportunities to have conflict.

Men and women in boyfriend/girl friend and husband and wife have lots of fights. Brothers and sisters fight often, why can't close friends? Close relationships sure give us a chance for lots of conflict.

[trnsplntfrmNV]

Those shows remind me of soap operas my mother used to watch....dumb stupid and all have a script to keep you watching. But that is my opinion.

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by email_lover

Does anyone watch those 'Housewives in X" shows on BRAVO TV? These are woman who are mostly friends but they are always fighting like cats and dogs. This made me wonder, does the average person have fights with their friends.

I do and can get very irritated at my close friends. Women can be catty and cruel but I think we are closer to our friends than men. My closest woman friends and I are very intimate and share so much in our lives and we interact so often that there is many opportunities to have conflict.

Men and women in boyfriend/girl friend and husband and wife have lots of fights. Brothers and sisters fight often, why can't close friends? Close relationships sure give us a chance for lots of conflict.

I do not have fights with my friends. Sometimes people grow apart and a friendship kind of fades, but I can count the number of times I've actually knocked heads with a friend, and that happened 14 years ago and we're still friends.

The beauty about friendships is that they are voluntary. There is simply no need to have people like those horrible "housewives" in your life. The minute someone even started that nonsense with me, I'd be gone.

Oh, and? Not all couples have "lots of fights." That, too, is not necessary. Like friendships, dating relationships are also voluntary. Having "lots of fights" means you're not compatible.

[ho hey!]

Sure who doesn't? My friends and I fight, but we always talk to each other about it AFTER we've cool down. We try to work things out so we can avoid conflicts in the future.

[Squirl]

I have one friend who lets me know if something I have said or done upsets her. None of my other friends do that and I never do it either. If I get annoyed, I tell my husband and just cool it for a while. Much, much later when I am over it I sometimes will calmly tell a friend about my surprise or disappointment over something said/happened. But basically in this world my confidante is my husband.

[mgt04]

I'm sure every healthy relationship has to have some fights. But don't look to Housewives of X for what the norm is They just want to make money so I'm sure they instigate more than average with each other to make it more interesting to viewers.

[PassTheChocolate]

I don't believe in fighting with my friends, or my partner. We may disagree on things but to have constant fighting and conflict isn't my idea of a healthy relationship. I've known people like this. I run from them now.

[email_lover]

I don't believe it is possible to not have strong disagreements with people we are close to. Fair fighting- yes. No yelling and screaming- maybe. But if we are really close (friend, brother, sister, spouse, SO) to someone and see them through good times and bad we are always going to have conflict. If there is no conflict and irration then you have just a casual relationship.

I am not saying the average person would have the level of conflict with their friends like the Housewifes Show on BRAVO but some conflict and fighting among best friends should be expected, right?

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by email_lover

I don't believe it is possible to not have strong disagreements with people we are close to. Fair fighting- yes. No yelling and screaming- maybe. But if we are really close (friend, brother, sister, spouse, SO) to someone and see them through good times and bad we are always going to have conflict. If there is no conflict and irration then you have just a casual relationship.

There is no such thing as no conflict or irritation in any relationship. You're talking "lots of fights" and "always fighting like cats and dogs". Big difference between that and the occasional disagreement/fall-out.

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by email_lover

I don't believe it is possible to not have strong disagreements with people we are close to. Fair fighting- yes. No yelling and screaming- maybe. But if we are really close (friend, brother, sister, spouse, SO) to someone and see them through good times and bad we are always going to have conflict. If there is no conflict and irration then you have just a casual relationship.

So, why do your friends irritate you? Are they telling you to stop emailing that guy you're meeting for lunch, the one who is not your husband and who is also married, himself?