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No, I have just been through so much harsh trauma in my years, that I realize nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes and have regrets, so no fellow human ever deserves a bad vibe from me in any way.
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Originally Posted by misswee
My son is my life, but if he messes up I am not going to coddle him, he will need to learn to be strong and get over things too, so I never intend on being an enabler towards him.
These parents found out 2-3 days ago and prefer to have no contact with her right now.
I still don't get why we're making them out to be enablers and intolerant religious zealots?
Last edited by robee70; 09-27-2010 at 05:32 PM..
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Since this is an outted situation have you now discussed this with your parents so they know whats going on? I'm sure they will be affected by this as well. Stupid things that kids do have consequences just like in the adult world. Especially when you are doing adult things when you are a kid. Maybe your own parents can give you the solace you crave. Your cousin needs the same from his parents and you lost out on that, period.
It is too bad you have lost your relatives but it sounds like your cousin lost his innocense before he was ready. You can't give that back to him. EVER... And his family owes you nothing. Move on and get over it.
For those of you that think that a young man can't be molested...tell that to kids molested by priests. I realize this was male/female but sexuality before the time is right is damaging to the psyche.
Are you sure you have no idea? I'm getting a vibe hear that you probably did fool around with him when he was much younger than 14. Correct me if I'm wrong. Where did you grow up that this was so normal. It doesn't sound normal at all to me.
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Originally Posted by Ep-
i thought most ppl knew they werent suposed to sleep with their cousins
Yeah this insistence that "I never knew it was wrong" rings very hollow to me.
OP, it happened. It was wrong. You can't undo it. You F***ED up, and all you can do, is admit it, apologize, and then drop it. Just because you want everyone else to see it through your eyes, doesn't make it so. Stop with the poor me behavior and move on.
I guess your right, I talk in generalizations more than about the actual people in this particular situation....
I still couldn't shut someone out like that I don't think....I would want to work things out somehow..
Until your child has been hurt by someone you trusted you will not know. This has nothing to do with religious zealots. It has to do with a betrayal of trust. The OP isn't even mature enough now to realize that this will take time. She just wants what she wants and she wants it now.
She wants her chance to give her side of the story. She seduced her cousin. What's to say. She was 17 and should have known better. Seriously, at 17, she didn't know she shouldn't be doing that with her cousin? Who buys that? If true, she really needs help and won't find it on this board. Is she still sleeping with these young boys?
Until your child has been hurt by someone you trusted you will not know. This has nothing to do with religious zealots. It has to do with a betrayal of trust. The OP isn't even mature enough now to realize that this will take time. She just wants what she wants and she wants it now.
She wants her chance to give her side of the story. She seduced her cousin. What's to say. She was 17 and should have known better. Seriously, at 17, she didn't know she shouldn't be doing that with her cousin? Who buys that? If true, she really needs help and won't find it on this board. Is she still sleeping with these young boys?
Actually, I was never thinking about the 17 thing, when we were kids we stopped all that by grade 2ish....
I would give it a few years maybe......just respect their need for space.
I think I wasn't really looking at the situation clearly, or putting myself in the other kids shoes.....
Even though we all fooled around as young kids, it was never actual SEX, that was too much for me even at 22 when I got married..... it was kinda creepy...
It I think it is starting to sink in what actually happened.....
A 17 yr old is practically an adult. This whole I was a kid thing isn't flying with me
I felt the same way but didn't go there because I have my doubts about the validity of the post.
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