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My mother will also turn any conversation around to be about her. All of us (her children) had difficulty with this when we were young, but we learned not to tell her certain things, especially if we have a problem, because she will launch into a story to demonstrate how she always had it so much worse. If you do tell her something about a subject that isn't her, you can see in her eyes that she's just waiting for you to finish so she can talk about herself some more.
One day my brother was saying how there was a terrible accident in the next town. Someone had cut off a guy on a motorcycle, and the biker was killed. He didn't know the guy, but a friend of his did, and he felt bad for him. My mother's response was "That happened to me just the other day." My brother said, "You were killed in a motorcycle accident?" I almost fell off my chair laughing. My mother looked insulted and said, "Somebody cut me off when I was driving!" She just didn't get it. At least acknowledge the story!
My mother's response was "That happened to me just the other day." My brother said, "You were killed in a motorcycle accident?" I almost fell off my chair laughing.
Bwahaaahaaa! Well-played!
My mother is narci too, although she doesn't dominate conversations. But she's still angry and hurt over something I said to her when I was eleven (11). Yes, eleven yrs old. She brings it up and throws it in my face at least once or twice a year to demonstrate how cold and uncaring I am. Ummm I'm in my late 40's. Think it's time to get over this yet? Yeah, she's crazy. Really crazy.
My mother is narci too, although she doesn't dominate conversations. But she's still angry and hurt over something I said to her when I was eleven (11). Yes, eleven yrs old. She brings it up and throws it in my face at least once or twice a year to demonstrate how cold and uncaring I am. Ummm I'm in my late 40's. Think it's time to get over this yet? Yeah, she's crazy. Really crazy.
I wonder if it was that generation of women or something. My mother is 81 and still complaining about things that her father or my paternal grandmother said and did, and these people have been dead since the early 70's. We avoid saying things to her that might spark these stories and launch us into an hour-long retelling of the tale.
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She even joked at the end, "Now that {guy'sName} is gone, I don't know what we'll talk about! All my friends and family know about coworker and ask for the latest updates on the work drama."
So, guess who I'll be avoiding for the next several months now? sigh...
My brother said, "You were killed in a motorcycle accident?" I almost fell off my chair laughing. My mother looked insulted and said, "Somebody cut me off when I was driving!" She just didn't get it. At least acknowledge the story!
I had a good laugh at these two stories.
MQ, I've asked the same question you posted, is it generational? Yes and No, thats how the past generation expressed their narcissism.
This generation of narcissists have them beat, it goes far beyond being a conversation hog.
I've met people like this. You try to have a conversation with them and no matter what you're talking about, they somehow turn it back to them. For example, you could be talking about how lousy someone else's job is and they'll start talking about their own job instead.
Yup, they don't get it and I've gone so far as to pick up the TV remote, point it at them and press the mute button. When they interrupt themselves to wonder what I am doing and I tell them, they laugh and start yadda yadda yaddaing all over again.
Yup, they don't get it and I've gone so far as to pick up the TV remote, point it at them and press the mute button. When they interrupt themselves to wonder what I am doing and I tell them, they laugh and start yadda yadda yaddaing all over again.
My narci mom was interacting with my husband during one of their first times together. In trying to get to know him, she asked if he'd seen a particular war movie to which he replied he hadn't. She described the movie scene-by-scene, pinpointing the climax, getting misty-eyed during a particularly poignant scene. I was only half paying attention but finally looked at my husband about 15 minutes later who'd been lounging in front of the TV on the floor, and he had literally turned his head away and was pretending to sleep. That didn't faze my mom, she just kept going and finally said, "you should see it" and walked away.
Moral of the story, even faking sleep doesn't deter these people.
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