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It's not a huge problem, but it's a nagging doubt at the least.
I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months or so, just made it "official" (via facebook of course, haha) a couple of weeks ago. One thing that's come out during our conversations is that I don't have any friends. We've never discussed it before, but she definitely knows. Every time she talks about all her friends I never have any similar experiences to relate to it. She asked me once if I had a best friend and I became very sad (said "no") and she quickly changed the subject.
She really does like me, and I really like her, but I just feel bad that I have no friends. She knows that if she goes out with her friends that I'm most likely going to be sitting at home alone. I don't mind, but I don't want her to feel bad about it.
Am I making too big a deal about it? Would you be concerned if your significant other had no friends?
A warning sign - and this goes for both sexes - is does this person have friends? It's a red flag, of sorts. Maybe you're an introvert, but no friends at all? Are you close to your family? If so, I wouldn't be concerned about the no friends issue.
I personally ended a lot of friendships in the last six months over my dad's death. And right now I don't feel like talking to too many people. But I know I will at some point.
It's not a huge problem, but it's a nagging doubt at the least.
I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months or so, just made it "official" (via facebook of course, haha) a couple of weeks ago. One thing that's come out during our conversations is that I don't have any friends. We've never discussed it before, but she definitely knows. Every time she talks about all her friends I never have any similar experiences to relate to it. She asked me once if I had a best friend and I became very sad (said "no") and she quickly changed the subject.
She really does like me, and I really like her, but I just feel bad that I have no friends. She knows that if she goes out with her friends that I'm most likely going to be sitting at home alone. I don't mind, but I don't want her to feel bad about it.
Am I making too big a deal about it? Would you be concerned if your significant other had no friends?
I have two friends but they both live over 1000 miles away. I have no near by friends and like it that way. My dh is my best friend and the only other companionship I need. I get enough of "people" at work to last me a long, long time. I have no desire to spend time with others during my off duty hours.
My dh is much the same. He has acquaintances, but I certainly would not call them friends.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with it. If you think that she will have concerns, then you need to discuss itwith her.
Why do you have no friends? What are your circumstances right now?
I would be concerned, because it's not very healthy. You need relationships outside of your SO, for your benefit, not just hers.
I'm 24, live on my own in a condo I bought a few months ago. I've always lived within a few miles of where I live now.
I've just never made friends with people. The only reason I've been able to have my ex-girlfriend and this current girlfriend is that (and I don't say this to brag) they like the way I look. Maybe something about me otherwise is appealing, but I don't see it. I had groups I hung out with in HS and College but never got invited anywhere or even heard about them doing things with each other. Though they did. I think there's just something about me that people must not like.
Perhaps she could introuduce you to some of her friends, for you to make friends?
The ones I've met (her two best friends) don't really seem to like me.
She's on the rocks with all her guy friends because of me. They are all friends with her ex (who she doesn't like at all but still wants to be with her) and my being her boyfriend (as well as other things too) has strained their friendship with each other.
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